So frightened for my Mum (bone mets)

Hi never posted anything on here before but don't know where or who to turn to. I'm 29 and my mum was first diagnosed with breast cancer when I was 12. She beat it but it came back when I was 24. This time round she was given more fierce treatment and was given a mastectomy. She managed to beat it again. On Friday we got the awful new that it has now spread to her spine, and are awaiting scans to find out if it has spread anywhere else.

i feel absolutely devastated, I can't help but think the worst and can't imagine life without her. I genuinely don't think I'd be able to cope. I am the youngest of three and feel angry that i have had and will have less time with her than my siblings. I feel like my mum and dad are really all I've got. I'm single and just keep thinking how it is now very unlikely that she will see me get married and have children of my own. I feel like I've let her down massively because I know that she wanted to see that. She is the strongest, bravest and most selfless woman I know and I wish I could feel more positive like she manages to. 

We are hoping that after further scans that it is just in her bones. If anyone could share any positive stories or support that would be greatly appreciated. 

  • Hi Purple,

    Welcome to the forum, I hope you find the support on here that you are looking for and that someone is able to provide some positive stories. 

    Best wishes

    Dave

     

  • I am so sorry to hear.  People can live many years with bone cancer.  My mother is proof of that.  It has been 12 years now and she is still with us.  However, she did refuse chemo. If she had not, I do not believe she would be here today. 

  • Thankyou for sharing your story, that is very reassuring. We are waiting to find out if it is just in her spine because if it is, she will not be given chemotherapy. But I'm not sure she'd even agree to it anyway given what she went through last time.
  • hiya . i feel the exact same your not alone

    im going through it with my brother. if you need anyone to chat to im here .

    i know you dont know me but im here to offer you support in any way i can .

    xx

  • Hello,

     

    I just wanted to reach out, I doubt you'll read this as its been such a long time but your post really hit me. I am pretty much in the exact same situation as you were when writing this. I am 29 years old and my mum has just found out (after 2 years of being all clear from breast cancer) that it has spread to her spine and neck. She meets with her ongologist next week to discuss it in detail/treatments etc. I am the eldest with no kids and not married but was planning on starting this chapter in the next year. That is all my mum has ever wanted and it terrifies me that she wont be able to experience being a nan. 

     

    I am just wondering how your mum is doing?

     

    Sending hugs x