Hi Col,

Welcome to this friendly forum. I dont envy you for not only are you worrying about your dad, you also have the added task of informing your children.

When I was diagnosed with prostate cancer, my three gandchildren were all ten and under. Ther were told I had an ilness that meant I had to keep going to hospital. As I had no outward signs of illness, they coped very well with this. I think my grandaughter who was the oldest knew more than she let on for several times she asked how I was feeling. bless her. I am close to allthree of them.

You are doing the right thing in telling them for they always seem to find out anyway in time. The one problem with young people is, in cases like this they often feel excluded and worry all the more because of it, so far better to be open and honest with it.

One thing I must mention is, there have in the past been several young people on here who feel they have had no one to talk to for they often feel they cant talk to grown ups about their fears and feelings and then tend to bottle things up. I know of one lady who explained a similar sitation to her children and told them she wasnt coping herself and told them if they all helped each other *** would make it easier to get through the bad times. Afterwards she told me it brought her even closer to her children.

I wish you and your family all the best and am sending kind thoughts your way. Please let us know how how things turn out, Brian.

Thank you for your reply and kind thoughts , both of my children knew that there grandad was very ill they saw him poorly after his chemo so they knew it was serious, but now it's the worst outcome its very hard to know how to break the news that it didn't work. I'm finding it very difficult as you say as well as worried about my parents trying to cope with what's going to happen Im very worried about the children they have had such a close relationship with their grandparents this news will break their hearts the eldest is away studying at university at the moment but is home in a few days for a visit and I think this is the time I must sit them both down and break the news. I am sorry to hear aboit your cancer i do hope its under control or even gone sending best wishes xI will keep in touch thank you x

Thank you for your reply and kind thoughts , both of my children knew that there grandad was very ill they saw him poorly after his chemo so they knew it was serious, but now it's the worst outcome its very hard to know how to break the news that it didn't work. I'm finding it very difficult as you say as well as worried about my parents trying to cope with what's going to happen Im very worried about the children they have had such a close relationship with their grandparents this news will break their hearts the eldest is away studying at university at the moment but is home in a few days for a visit and I think this is the time I must sit them both down and break the news. I am sorry to hear aboit your cancer i do hope its under control or even gone sending best wishes xI will keep in touch thank you x