My dad has the same, we're 9 months in now, he did have some chemo which did shrink the tumour which I think prolonged his life but he has had problem after problem since the chemo, now they are just experimenting with drugs. How is your partner feeling ? Has he got much pain? 

Hi, he is feeling okay just now as he has just finished radiotherapy to his tumour on the spine. We have only just discovered further spread to the nymph node near to the kidney area.  He aches a lot but tries to carry on as normal. Just going to take it one step at a time! Sorry to hear your dad is going through a bad time. 

Hi Tracey 

my husband got diagnosed with terminal lung cancer in February at the age of 34!You don't need to say anything to your husband just being there will be enough for him! I wish there is some miracle words I could say to you to help but all I can say is just to make the most of every day you have and most importantly have fun, I know that seems impossible at the moment and it will take time for you all to adjust buts it's not impossible to have fun again! Keep telling yourself you control the cancer not the other way round! My husband is my true inspiration and has been so strong this year we have kept each other going! Don't get me wrong we both have our bad days where we say life's unfair and way us! But he's still here and still fighting and they have told him he will never get rid off his cancer and one day it will take him, but he has other ideas he says to me I'm going nowhere I'm superman and I've come this far fighting so I'm gonna carry on, I couldn't wish for him to have a better attitude! Sorry I don't mean to make this post all about me but just wanted to share abit of my story with you so you know just because your husband has cancer, it's not by a long shot the end of everything it will just take time for you to adjust! Send lots of hugs your way xx

That's great that your have great times and making memories! How is your partner coping with treatment, what treatment have are they doing if you don't mind me asking! And how are you coping with it all! My husband it doing fantastic at the moment, all treatment has finished now so he has scans every 3 months to make sure it hasn't spread! 

Everytime we go somewhere we get something and put it in a memory box and when we are having a bad day we look through it to remind us of the good things that we have done! We are currently looking into alternative treatments to help him! Your mind is a powerful thing and if your currently watching your partner go throw treatment then it makes it harder to change your mind frame, when my husband was having treatment I'm not going to lie it was 6 months of hell but that was because he became extremely poorly at one point, and I don't know how I did it but I turned into this ball of laughter and fun when I would go a spend the day with him at the hospital and that kept him going and to see him smile and laugh again was how I drew my strength from those bad months, then when I was at home on my own I was a mess and had my mum and dad for support which was a big help! My saying is chin up and charge the mountain! 

Xxx

hi there - D treatment is chemo therapy - once every three weeks for 4 sessions is the plan at present - and he had the first one a week ago today - so far he has been ok - he’s been tired and felt a bit sick but has been doing well and most days getting out and about - so I can’t say this is not fantastic- he is so strong in terms of his attitude and remains very strong in front of our 2 children (21 and 25). We have had a good day daily and let’s hope this continues- I must admit we came home today from lunch with a friend and I have felt sad- and broke down in front of him - I know that it is ok - but I feel so bad doing this - and have managed not to do this for a bit- I just felt sad for not being able to walk back after lunch and may be stop for a drink- all the things 6 weeks ago I took for normal - I am thankful he is sleeping and in fact writing this all down is helping as I do feel alone with this all – I hope within the hour I begin to feel strong again – roller coaster or what ? have you managed to link in with any local support groups or anything/ I have a telephone counselling assessment on Friday- not sure if I need this or not – but I guess it may help. I am signed off sick at present and not sure what I should do about going to work – want to see how D chemo goes – but am aware that work in time may be the sanctuary I need – and provide the finances as well – what a situation we all find ourselves in – I hope you’re having a good day and that its happy – take care and hope to hear from you soon- and anybody else who needs to gain support from the site we share here – take care Tracey xx

how are you doing now Tracey ? x

Hi my husband age 50 had 8 rounds of chemo which shrunk the tumor slightly. It went from being 8cm to 7cm . He has just finished 15 rounds of radiotherapy. We will get results in 3 wks time. He is feeling great at the moment. Started to put on weight and we are both staying VERY positive. After all the tears and worry we have both decided we got to stay positive and keep fighting. It's very hard but once you understand everything it is easier to deal with. Good luck 

jan62- i think you are completely right and i hope the results are good for you and your husband- so glad he is feeling well - my husband is also feeling good to date - and i can only think staying positive is the way forward - best wishes to all follwoing this post x