Hi I'm new to the site so I don't know if anyone will be able to help me or give me any advice but I really need to speak to someone who may know where I'm coming from.
my mum was diagnosed with terminal breast cancer of the bone in 2013, previous to this she had cancer in her whomb but had a historectomy and no other treatment.
after she was diagnosed in 2013 she had chemo, she was really ill the first time she had it but they reduced it and health wise (apart from the obvious) she was okay, after the chemo she was told she needed they aseptin (not sure on spelling) drug every 3 weeks for the rest of her life which she always has, she still goes to work and gets on with daily jobs, she helps with my son and life carries on as normal.
the thing I really need help and advice on is that my mum is a completely different person, I'm 25 and am an only child and still live at home, we've always had the best relationship, she was always so easy going and fun but the past few years have been hell living with her, she snaps for no reason, she's irritable all the time and it's not just with me it's everyone, it's as if she can't relax, she's constantly complaining she's tired yet when anyone tries to help with anything it's never done right, she makes so much fuss over the smallest thing and she turns the simplest of tasks into something stressful, I can't remember the last time we enjoyed a day out without her snapping or their being some kind of disagreement, she says that I speak to her in a nasty tone or that my dad does but she doesn't realise it's her that is the snappy one, recently she's started to forget things aswel, like directions while she's driving the car to places she's been a million times, she'll ask me what lane she needs to be travelling in and when I tell her she starts getting really agitated and waving her arms around and shouting, I've tried lots of times to discuss this with her both calmly and whilst we've argued but she just ignores me or it's fine for a day and it's back to square 1 again, my dad works away Monday to Friday so most of the time it's just me, my boyfriend, mum and son but there's a constant atmosphere in the house including at the weekends when my dad is at home, I had such a good childhood and upbringing and I'm worried my son isn't going to have the same, there's never masses of shouting but a few weeks ago my mum and dad were away for the weekend and I told my son they were on their way back (he's 4) and he said "oh great that's the arguments starting again) I feel awful for my mum and what she's going through but I can't take any more of it, I work full time but even on my wage I can't afford the costs of moving out?so sorry for long post but I just don't know what to do anymore!
