Welcome to Cancer Chat Tigger87,

I am so sorry to hear about your mum and the pain you are currently experiencing which seems to be very intense. It must be an incredibly difficult time for you and I hope you will gain a little comfort from talking to others here who are currently - or have in the past been in a similar situation to you, having to see a loved one deteriorate fast.

It is normal to be having difficulty expressing your emotions and I am sure your true friends and loved ones will realize that you are hurting at the moment. Sometimes sharing your emotions with others on this forum can help you cope a little better - you will meet many people on Cancer Chat you may never have seen but who understand better than anyone close to you what you are currently going through.

I hope they will be along soon to share their own story with you.

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thank you for the reply. Mum seemed so well dispite being so Ill for years, she's had so many treatments and coped amazingly.

Now things are going downhill so rapidly the Dr said she may only have a few days left.

I'm moving house tomorrow and starting a new job at the end of the month. I feel like I shouldn't be doing anything. 

Thank you for your reply, I'm so sorry you are also in this position. 

My mum is so brave and I don't honestly know how I'll cope. 

HHello tigger. I'm in the same position, and I'm moving out in a few weeks and feel as though I shouldn't even leave her side for the day. What saddens me the most is the thought of her not seeing me and my brother  carry on our life and have children for some reason, even though it sounds selfish. She is such a strong woman and has carried our family through on her own, I can't bare to se her in this way.

I'm very closed with my emotions and people assume it hasn't sank in properly, but I feel as though my hearts sinking  constantly.

best of luck with everything, I hope you and

especially your mum start to feel better. 

Hi tigger87

I'm really sorry about your mum. My mum has also been fighting for along time (nearly 12 years) but is now losing the fight. Every time I see her she's worse and it's heart wrenching.  It's probably rhe hardest thing we will ever have to do and it's hard to stay strong. Thinking if you and your family at this hard time x