Okay so a little background: this is about my dad. He was diagnosed with brain cancer (secondary) that stemmed from lung cancer about a month and a half ago. It is stage 4. On Monday he was crossing the street and he stopped. He just stood there so I said "dad?" Then he started swaying from side to side. He ended up falling and cracked his head open. I ran to him and called an ambulance. He's prone to seizures but it didn't look like one and he says he didn't have one. He has partial focal seizures so he's aware when they happen. He went to the hospital but they couldn't get a great image on the cat scan because he was jumping so much. From what the Dr could make out, there was no new bleeding in the brain. But he's been acting very odd. He's usually very laid back about everything. Even when he was diagnosed with cancer. But since the fall, he's snapping at everyone, mostly over irrational things. I'm not cooking fast enough, the food isn't hot enough (Its got steam coming off of it so that's hot if you ask me). But today was the last straw. He told me I'm nothing. I'm not good enough and I don't do enough. I tried to calmly explain that I'm doing the best I can without any help. I have a 2 yr old, an autistic brother who can't do much for himself and I have to take care of myself as well. I have to dress 4 people (including my dad because one arm doesn't work because of the brain cancer). Often I go out in the same clothes all week because I'm helping everyone else. I already know my feelings don't matter. Others have reinforced that into my brain already. But I guess I'm just asking for advice. He doesn't want any outside help like a aid or to talk to someone like a social worker. It's just me. I guess maybe some suggestions on how to get through to him? And could the fall have altered his persona somehow? I keep telling him I'm trying my best but he just screams at me. We don't have any family to turn to. He's still smoking. It's as if he doesn't care that his granddaughter is going to grow up without him. I understand cancer is a very difficult diagnose but he's just not the type to give up. I'm mostly concerned because of the sudden behavior change. I'd appreciate any advice or help I can get.
