Young adults who have a parent with cancer!

Hi all, 

Looking to talk to other young adults whose got a parent with cancer. Sometimes it can be very comforting to speak to others who are going through the same sort of thing and hopefully support one another. 

A little bit about me... I am 27 years old, April 2015 my Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 incurable bowel cancer which has spread to his lungs and liver. They offered him palliative chemotherapy. But unfortunately he's only had a couple of handfuls of chemo since last year. He's currently doing really well though and is due to receive his next lot of CT results in less than 3 weeks time. It's been extremely tough, heartbreaking, a lot of anger too but somehow we are coping as a family. Sometimes it is hard when those around me don't quite understand how it feels and that just because he's OK at the moment it doesn't mean everything's sorted. 

Hope to hear from someone soon who can relate x 

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  • Hi Butterfly89,

           I am 19 years old and my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer about a week and a half, two weeks ago. I know exactly how you feel when it comes to feeling angry and the questions of "why?" I cant control who I lash out on and its hard to cope with it because Im not good at expressing myself.

     

     Any good tips of trying to cope and come to terms with reality of the situation?

    Hope your dad gets better xoxo

  • Hello Shawna, Thank you for your reply. 19 years old is ever so young, I feel young going through what I am with a parent. So sorry to hear your mum's been recently diagnosed with lung cancer. How is she? And how are you coping? It doesn't matter how you express yourself do what feels natural for you. We all cope with things differently. The advice I can give you from my own experience of dealing with this for 15 months now is to take each day as it comes, don't expect too much just take it slowly. The first stages were unbearable I remember waking up every morning with this horrible stomach churning feeling. As times gone on its got easier to cope with, not much has changed but time has helped me cope. You'll find strength you never knew existed inside you and as each day passes you get that little bit stronger. I try to think on a neutral level meaning I don't think too negatively or too positively I like to stay somewhere in the middle. You'll have good days and bad days and both are very normal. Spend time with your mum it does help and support her. Remember if you need a chat or to vent please come on here or even message me talking has helped me a great deal over the past year. Xx
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  • Hello Shawna, Thank you for your reply. 19 years old is ever so young, I feel young going through what I am with a parent. So sorry to hear your mum's been recently diagnosed with lung cancer. How is she? And how are you coping? It doesn't matter how you express yourself do what feels natural for you. We all cope with things differently. The advice I can give you from my own experience of dealing with this for 15 months now is to take each day as it comes, don't expect too much just take it slowly. The first stages were unbearable I remember waking up every morning with this horrible stomach churning feeling. As times gone on its got easier to cope with, not much has changed but time has helped me cope. You'll find strength you never knew existed inside you and as each day passes you get that little bit stronger. I try to think on a neutral level meaning I don't think too negatively or too positively I like to stay somewhere in the middle. You'll have good days and bad days and both are very normal. Spend time with your mum it does help and support her. Remember if you need a chat or to vent please come on here or even message me talking has helped me a great deal over the past year. Xx
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