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Young adults who have a parent with cancer!

Butterfly89
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Hi all, 

Looking to talk to other young adults whose got a parent with cancer. Sometimes it can be very comforting to speak to others who are going through the same sort of thing and hopefully support one another. 

A little bit about me... I am 27 years old, April 2015 my Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 incurable bowel cancer which has spread to his lungs and liver. They offered him palliative chemotherapy. But unfortunately he's only had a couple of handfuls of chemo since last year. He's currently doing really well though and is due to receive his next lot of CT results in less than 3 weeks time. It's been extremely tough, heartbreaking, a lot of anger too but somehow we are coping as a family. Sometimes it is hard when those around me don't quite understand how it feels and that just because he's OK at the moment it doesn't mean everything's sorted. 

Hope to hear from someone soon who can relate x 

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    Hi Butterfly89, 

    I'm 22 and my dad has terminal cancer. He's been told he may only have a few weeks and theyve stopped chemo as it was not helping. 

    I don't know how to react. When I get upset I feel as if I should be fine, day to day jobs can be so difficult to maintain. Some days I just want to break down and cry but I feel like I need to just carry on and live my life. I don't think friends or colleagues really understand, they can empathise but until it happens to you I don't think you can relate to the overwhelming sadness. 

    I hope your dad continues to do well x

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    Hello, 

    Thank you for your reply to my thread. 

    So sorry your poor Dad has terminal cancer. It is such a difficult and devastating time for you at the moment. If you feel the urge to cry, shout then do so try not to leave it all to build up. You have to be kind to yourself and only do what feels natural for you. It's ok to get upset after all your dad is so poorly and it's one of those things nobody ever wants to experience or face. You're right, nobody understands. Some of my friends and even family show little understanding or sympathy, others completely ignore the subject which comes across insensitive but maybe they just don't know what to say. 

    Hope you keep talking on here, it's comforting to find others who understand. Xxx

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    Hello, 

    Thank you for your reply to my thread. 

    So sorry your poor Dad has terminal cancer. It is such a difficult and devastating time for you at the moment. If you feel the urge to cry, shout then do so try not to leave it all to build up. You have to be kind to yourself and only do what feels natural for you. It's ok to get upset after all your dad is so poorly and it's one of those things nobody ever wants to experience or face. You're right, nobody understands. Some of my friends and even family show little understanding or sympathy, others completely ignore the subject which comes across insensitive but maybe they just don't know what to say. 

    Hope you keep talking on here, it's comforting to find others who understand. Xxx

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