Young adults who have a parent with cancer!

Hi all, 

Looking to talk to other young adults whose got a parent with cancer. Sometimes it can be very comforting to speak to others who are going through the same sort of thing and hopefully support one another. 

A little bit about me... I am 27 years old, April 2015 my Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 incurable bowel cancer which has spread to his lungs and liver. They offered him palliative chemotherapy. But unfortunately he's only had a couple of handfuls of chemo since last year. He's currently doing really well though and is due to receive his next lot of CT results in less than 3 weeks time. It's been extremely tough, heartbreaking, a lot of anger too but somehow we are coping as a family. Sometimes it is hard when those around me don't quite understand how it feels and that just because he's OK at the moment it doesn't mean everything's sorted. 

Hope to hear from someone soon who can relate x 

Parents
  • Hi Butterfly89, 

    I'm 22 and my dad has terminal cancer. He's been told he may only have a few weeks and theyve stopped chemo as it was not helping. 

    I don't know how to react. When I get upset I feel as if I should be fine, day to day jobs can be so difficult to maintain. Some days I just want to break down and cry but I feel like I need to just carry on and live my life. I don't think friends or colleagues really understand, they can empathise but until it happens to you I don't think you can relate to the overwhelming sadness. 

    I hope your dad continues to do well x

  • Hi, hope your all doing well!! I am just turned 22 years old and know exactly how you are all feeling!! Unfortunately my dad passed away last week and it's just such an awful feeling, your right not many people understand.

    i feel sorry for my mum mainly, it's all shes ever known and now she's all alone when I'm not in the house. This is an Awful time in my life. 

     

     

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  • Hi, hope your all doing well!! I am just turned 22 years old and know exactly how you are all feeling!! Unfortunately my dad passed away last week and it's just such an awful feeling, your right not many people understand.

    i feel sorry for my mum mainly, it's all shes ever known and now she's all alone when I'm not in the house. This is an Awful time in my life. 

     

     

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  • Hello Monkeyboy,

    Thank you for your reply. 

    I am ever so sorry to hear your dad passed away and only last week too, utterly devastating. Do you have much support around you? I hope you're finding the strength to get through each and every day although it's very hard for you. I do hope you're looking after yourself. Your poor mum probably feels like part of her is missing, it will no doubt be very hard for her. I really wish these things didn't happen, it's heartbreaking and life changing. How are we meant to carry on with such an empty hole in our lives......

    Big hugs x