Mum was told that her breast cancer has come back after 20yrs and has spread and its not curable. She has started started on letrozole and they have said there is about 3 drugs off the top of there heads they can think off..I have tried to speak to mum about the diagnosis but she is so widthdrawn. Yesterday however in the middle of a shop she started crying and just said she didn't want to die..she just kept saying those words..I tried to hold back my tears as best as possible and hugged her saying positive things like ' there's lots of meds to try' and  ' we are not going to just let that happen'...

She's so vulnerable, she has always been someone we have had to look after...she isn't the 'I'm going to fight this' type....she's scared and worried and anxious and not sleeping as am I...hearing her say that breaks my heart and has crushed me..I don't know what to say to make her feel 'better' my dad died suddenly on Christmas day two yrs ago and sometimes it all feels completely overwhelming and words come out of my mouth that I think I shouldn't be saying like 'your not going to die'...because she is..but I don't want her to believe that because she can't cope with it....I no this all sounds 'mixed up' my question is what do you say when your mum says she doesn't want to die?......x