Hello all

I'm hoping for some advice. My Dad is a long term cancer sufferer - bladder and kidney, one kidney removal around 8 years ago but now it's back and he needs the other kidney removed, along with radiation therapy. Currently waiting for hospital to complete tests.

Over the past few years he seems to have lost all responsibility with money. Instead of paying his rent he will spend hundreds of pounds on EBay, buying stamps/coins etc. I have had to step in several times to pay his arrears. Each time it happens he promises he won't do it again but then around 6 months later it happens again.

I'm getting to the end of my tether - helping him with his health is one thing (he's quite deaf so my brother or I go to hospital appointments, chase up treatment etc), but this constant worry about his finances is grossly unfair.

My question is, is this a common issue amongst cancer sufferers? Does the long term effects of the disease and associated treatment (he is on dialysis) often cause this reaction?

i imagine some of it is boredom and depression but I don't know how to change his behaviour. I have now blocked access to eBay on his computer but he is pleading with me to take off the block, promising to be responsible. I'm also deeply concerned he will be evicted.

Any advice most welcome.