Hi Paula,

Your Dad may be too shocked to take it all in, our minds seem to shut down a little and only allow the realisation to trickle through at a rate they can cope with.

Your own sense of shock will eventually wear off and you'll find yourself coping better, if only because you have too for his sake.

Best wishes
Dave

Thanks Dave.

Hi there, I'm really sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my dad to lung cancer in October, 3 days after diagnosis and being told 50% of people would still be around in 8 months. I think you're right to cancel your holiday as you have to stand by your decisions and live with them if things go wrong. I can understand your parents thinking, my dad didn't want my sister to come from Australia as she is visiting in June 2016!!! This meant she never saw him again. They only do it to protect us and not be a burden. I think you'll have to come up with a creative fib to tell your daughter that she will believe. . When you find out the news I personally think you start grieving there and then for what you're not going to have in the near future. Try and focus on the chemo and hope for great things. If things go well you could get more than a couple of months. The doctors only give estimate, all people are different, some people get a lot more time than they say, however some (like my dad) get a lot less time. It's really heart wrenching having to go through this for all involved. I always have those thoughts of the physiological things my dad must of gone through knowing he was leaving us all behind. He was only 64. Take care of your family x