Hi chrissie76

Welcome to Cancer Chat and sorry about your mum.

You have posted in the right section, as there are many here who are caring for loved ones  with cancer.

I hope that they will come and say hello to you shortly.

Please come and share your thoughts and feelings whenever you feel it may help.

Best wishes to you and your mum,

Jane

Hi hun im sorry to hear about your mum im the same my mum got diagnoised 5th feb this year with stage 4 cancer of the lung and 3 brain tumours im caring for my mum myself at her home its the hardest thing iv ever done in my life im 32 and my mum is 57 because she has 3 on her brain its starting to effect her memory and she having really bad mood swings my mum is everything to me and she is all i have all this is just a shock and i feel i have noone to talk to. xx

Hello, so sorry to hear that your mum was diagnosed last June with terminal lung cancer. It's one of the hardest things to ever deal with. I can sympathise greatly and the pain is unbearable. My Dad was diagnosed last April so a year ago now with state 4 'incurable' bowel cancer with secondaries to his lungs and liver. At one of his appointments the oncologist said to my Dad would he like to know how long he's got my Dad said no he didn't want to know...the oncologist said all I will tell you is that your life will be drastically shortened. His bowel obstructed past July and was near death luckily he pulled through but at one point the doctors were discussing about making him comfortable. Then February this year he suffered from a stroke but luckily recovered from that. Overall he's well but I know that one day he will get ill and he may not be so lucky. The pain I feel inside is excruciating I've only just turned 27 and I can't bare to think about all the things he will miss out on. How do we cope? I think we just have to take one day at a time and not be scared to ask for help and support. My life feels like it's stopped since my dad's diagnosis I'm surviving rather than living. All I can say is make the most of the time you have with her. Create some much needed memories. I've been taking photos and videos of my Dad and us as a family. Sorry I can't offer you much advice but just wanted to share my story and let you know you aren't alone and there are people who share your pain and worries. 

Big hugs x 

Do you have support from your family / friends? This is the most crule illness and its so hard for the familys of loved ones just as much i feel like since mum got diagnoised iv got on a train and its going so fast i cant get off i know that might sound mad but i cant really explain how i feel any other way my doctor has now put me on strong tablets to try help me cope a bit better and to help me sleep as i wasnt sleeping or eating and i know i need to try be strong for my mum. big hugs to you and your family hun xx