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Dad has throat cancer

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My dad was diagnosed with throat cancer for the second time on 21st October we were told he had a few weeks to live and that he wouldn't be here for Xmas I obviously took time off work to care for him. Long story short he's still with us I am still off work because if I go back they will put him in a home and that's not happening basically I feel totally trapped and lost no idea when I will get back to work and my family beginning to struggle had go cancel family holiday as can't leave him for a week my life is totally on hold and the oy way out of it is to lose my dad 

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    Hi blue eyes UK. Sorry to hear about ur dads diagnosis. My mum has terminal lung cancer. So I understand how that feels. I don't wish to offend u but u sound resentful because your looking after ur dad. Is it that u need help with his care an feel out of ur depth? My mum has Macmillan nurses who r brilliant, am sure if u contacted them they could help u. Also is there nobody else I he family who cud help u

     

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    We have MacMillan nurses coming in daily yes there are times when I am resentful of the situation who wouldn't be but wouldn't abandon my dad for anything and yes there are 5 other kids and none of them want to know 2 of them don't even come and see him they just walked away everything is on me to keep him comfortable and happy

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    Helo I'm so sory about yr dad  my dad has terminal throat And liver.cancer at 84  I'm mentally drained and cing my dad slowly become weaker and weaker it's so hard going on the family .I feel I'm in a bubble Xmas I don't even want to celebrate but I have to as it prob as u hate to say wil be the last for my lovely dad .sometimes I really cry other days I can't is that normal .my dad has been in hospital for a week now I'm stil here but scared of the care  and no that my dad wil get worse it's a nightmare . Roo

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