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hi,

My name is chloe and last year in november, i found out that my nan has terminal cancer. it took me a few days to come to terms with the news because the day i found out this devastating news, was the day i found out my results from a recent mock i did at school. im 15 and my GCSEs are coming quick. Finding out that i was going to lose my nan was one of the hardest moments i have ever had to face so far. I love my nan with every piece of me. We are so close and i value our relationship so much. she supports me and encourages me to try my best and perfrom to my best abilities. Even on her bad days after chemo, she would still send me a text asking if everything at school is going well. Right now, she is my driving force to getting my A's and A*'s in my exams and getting into college.

Ive had a lot of support at home and at shcool, which i am so grateful for. A lot of people say that talking about it helps, but i find that it makes it more real for me... which makes it harder to accept. Recently my moods and emotions have been all over the place and i dont know how to cope with it! I hate being moody and upset at school because i feel like a burden on my friends.

My nan is the stongest lady i know. she has been through more that anyone could understand... and i do and always will respect her for that. What's execptionally hard right now is to see her change so much. She has physically changed so much, she gets extemley tired and she cant hold much of a converstation now/ finds it hard to find the right words to say. My grandad worrys so much aout her and he has really stepped up for her. My mum aswell; She has driven both of them to their doctors, hospital etc. appointments and has made the time to be ther for my sister and myself. its heartbreakig when i see my grandad and mum get upst or cry.

sorry if i dragged on! im finding writting my emotions down, quite useful. the point of this is to ask if anyone has any tips on coping with such news? i need some techniques so that i can cope with this situation and still get those grades to make nan proud of me

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    Hi chloe.2000

    Welcome to Cancer Chat and sorry that your nan has terminal cancer.

    It's good that you are receiving support at home and at school.

    There is a website which you may find helpful. You can talk to others your own age who have a loved one affected by cancer. It is called riprap and you can find it here. 

    It sounds as though your nan is very proud of you and wants you to focus on your A levels and getting into college.

    Please come here to share your feelings whenever you find it helpful.

    Best wishes

    Jane

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    thank you very much

    I will have a look at that website

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    Hi Chloe. So sorry to hear about your nan. Just under a month ago I found out the same news about my nan too. It's been a big struggle and I can understand a little of what you are feeling. It is so lovely that your nan is thinking about you and your future and it's because she loves you that she wants the most for you. GCSEs are a hard year but I really hope you find the strength to get through them and your nan is with you for your journey. I am 28 years old and am working and at Uni and my nan is exactly the same. Very supportive and always sending me a text to find out how uni is going. She only started chemo on Thursday and has been quite unwell this weekend but I'm hoping it's all worth it eventually. It's one of the worst things any of us can go through and somehow we have to find strength although it's easier said than done! I don't know what services you have where you live but last week I registered at The Mulberry Centre which is near where I live and I know it's going to be one of the biggest supports for me moving forward. Hope you too have support and help to get you through this time. Xx

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    it is really hard! you dont just have to watch your nan struggle, but you also have to watch parents and my grandad suffer which just makes it alot more harder. I hope that your nan gets on well with chemo! best of luck!

    its nice to know there are others i can talk to! thank you for the advice aswell!

    xxx

     

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    Hi, I've recently just found out that my dad has terminal cancer and i also have my GCSE's coming up soon and im trying so hard to make my dad proud. We are both in a similar situation so If you ever want to talk about how you are feeling i am here x

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    awww im so sorry to hear that xxx of course if you want to talk, just message me xxx

    Unfortunatley, my nan passed away yesterday xx she was a strong willed lady and she fought hard, despite knowing how it would end xxx

    gone but never forgotten x

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    Hi Chloe,

    I am so sorry to hear your nan passed away yesterday. Our thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. Feel free to keep on using the forum to support other young people like Anonymous124 who are in a similar situation.

    Good luck Chloe and Anonymous124  with your GCSEs!

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    I AM SO SORRY for your loss i hope you cope well and have a bright future 

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