hello i found out three days ago my son has bowel lung and brain tumour no cure i have been told heis in hospital but with covid i cannot visit i ring and he trys to talk but does not want to , i read somewhere that they detatch themselves from the real world and family this is part of the journey, he still loves me and wants the best for me and me him but it is sor hard not being able to be with him

Hello Granie,

This is the hardest of times, your son will most likely be in shock, you will be in turmoil, I remember the agony of it all and I was at least able to be with my son, he had 6 months from diagnosis before going into a hospice, he lasted 3 weeks, he was 33. I don't have any words that can comfort you the in this situation. You could try the Macmillan helpline, I found them quite helpful at the time, so sorry not to be of any help, other that to say I'm thinking of you. Take care, Vera X 

Hello, I haven't been here for some time.

just wanted to say after all this time, that I contacted the compassionate friends and I have had lots of support from them, so thank you for telling me about them. 

I just didn't come back here, I don't know why, just coping as you probably know to get through each day.

so don't know if you'll read this, but thought I'd put this here.

hope you're doing ok and keeping well. X 

Thank you Vera, the doctor has told me he has had this for about 9 months, can \i ask do you think he is nearing his time 

thank you