Krystal,

That's such a hard question to answer. When my Mum reached the end my Dad just seemed to know instinctively that she was fading away. At that stage she was on syringe drivers for pain relief, with Marie Curie nurses in attendance and was asleep for much of the time.

Try to keep strong, but take some time out for yourself if you can.

Best wishes
Dave 

Hi Krystal

Such a hard time for you and  your Mum and not an easy question to answer because most experiences are different. All I would say is that the time you have is always precious. When my Dad was nearing the end of his life, he slept more and more and at his request spent his last days in a hospice with round the clock care and Marie Curie nurses who were so supportive to us all. Where my husband was concerned he had been dealing with a cancer diagnosis (incurable from when he found out) for nearly three years and his choice was to be at home. His deterioration was pretty rapid in the last five days but he knew who we were and  was still able to chat with us during the time he was awake.  He did not eat much at all and only managed sips of water. We had community nurses calling as and when required in the last 3 days and he slept more and more. Was on oral pain relief until the last 36hrs when swallowing became difficult so they fitted a driver.  Believe it or not he still managed to get up for a  little while on his last day with us and enjoyed watching the grandchildren playing and those memories are very special. His passing was peaceful but a deeply felt loss.

I hope you  have others to support you both and do try and take some time to be kind to yourself too. Jules54

This terrifies me! I feel like it's going to happen soon....should I know? 

She's sleeping a lot, on so much medication! And when she is awake she seems to be having hallucinations, and not really making a lot of sense. My mum refuses to go in to the hospice. She believes she's going to fight this, she doesn't know what they told us at her last appointment, that she only had months left I think that's the hardest thing. My mum has always been the person I turn to, always! But with this I feel I can't talk to her because i dont want her to know my fears, I want to protect her. I just wish I could!