Hi Paddock

Really sorry to hear that - I'm at the other end of that journey - my wife died after 3 years of cancer back in October.

I don't know your position - how long you think you have with your husband, whether he is having treatment, how capable he is etc. but yes it is scary (even more so for him I'd say!) but it doesn't have to be lonely.

You have him, for now at least, and you'll want to spend as much time as you can with him. Do friends and familly know? or is he one of these people who doesn't want people to know? that can be difficult.

In any event you'll find lots of people on here in very similar situations who will be more than ready to offer advice,support or just sympathise when you're having a bad day.

In time you may even find that you can offer such advice and support to others - you'd be amazed how theraputic that can be.

Sorry you are here but welcome none the less

Hi Graham 

Thank you for your reply and I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

Yes , friends & family know, but I feel that unless you are going through or have gone through this awful illness, then it is very difficult for anyone to fully appreciate the journey that I am on. 

My husband has been on chemo tablets which haven't worked , and he was due to  start  a last week but he is in hospital as he has been really ill and therefore they are unable to start the new meds. It Is the unknown that we are dealing with that just makes this all so scary. We just feel that it is one step forward and two steps back.

We are both trying to be up beat and positive but some days it is just so hard.

Yes it's really tough when you're not well enough to take the medication. In later months my wife's blood figures weren't high enough for her treatment to go ahead and that was always so frustrating.

I hope he's up for treatment soon. 

Yes it's really tough when you're not well enough to take the medication. In later months my wife's blood figures weren't high enough for her treatment to go ahead and that was always so frustrating.

I hope he's up for treatment soon.