Just need somebody to talk to

My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer in June 2015. He's had 6 sessions of radiotherapy but is now having ongoing chemopherepy. The chemopherepy is working and keeping the cancer at bay which is good news but it isn't going to cure him! I can't begin to imagine how scared he must be feeling not knowing what the future holds for him! He dosnt talk about it I think he's still in denial, I think I'm still in denial to what is happening. I feel like I have nobody to talk to, I have family and friends but I feel they don't understand what I'm going through I think they think I should be the strong one because it's not me who's actually going through this and living with the cancer! I have never felt so lonely and scared. We have a one year old daughter which breaks my heart to think that he might be here wen she's growing up! 

  • I am really sorry to hear your sad news. I think for family members it can be quite a lonely/scary/isolated time, but if it helps, I found this forum helpful.

    There may be no cure, but at least your husband is receiving treatment, so that gives him a chance. One thing that I have learnt is to not look to the future, but to enjoy the here and now. Make as many memories for you all as you can - and create a memory book along the way for your daughter - she will always have memories of her mummy and daddy then into her ripe old age :0)

  • Hi there

    I know exactly what you mean as i'm going through exactly what you are right now with my wife. Pm me if you want to talk

  • I am so sorry to read about your husbands diagnosis. My husband was diagnosed with stage 3 bowel cancer in September although I do not know exactly your situation as we are still hopeful of him being cured I do understand in part the loneliness and isolation that you are feeling. It's a very scary place to be. I have a 1 year old also plus a 3 year old too

    If you ever need a rant or just a friendly ear I am here. Sending you big hugs xx