Hello, Katy, how very sad you have to cope with your grandad's diagnosis.  I think if the doctors think he is too weak for treatment then you have to accept that - it would be cruel to put him through anything that may cause him pain. Please don't try to take on to much, you must be distressed enough, your dad will cope in his own way and I am sure you will be a great comfort to each other and, together, for your grandad.

Please come back and let us know how you are.  You can get help from your Macmillan and Marie Curie nurses.  And of course you can talk to us on the forum. x

So sorry to hear your bad news.   I have been through this recently too.   I know it's hard but all you can do is try to be brave and take each day as it comes, being as normal as you can around him.  I was so scared, but (as the world's biggest coward!) I managed to get through it and we had a lovely time together in the last five weeks of his life.  He even said to me 'I know it's wrong as I'm dying but I'm so happy to be with you.'   One song I listened to on the radio as I drove home from work to see him one day was 'Crying in the Rain' by the Everly Brothers. It was one of his favourites.   It rang true as I had to keep a smile on my face around him and hide my tears most of the time (I did sob once or twice around him but tried not to!), but certainly did my crying when he couldn't see me as much as I could.  Try and be brave but allow yourself to cry with the ones you love.  The song says 'one day I'm going to wear a smile and walk in the sun' , which I know he'd want.  You will get through this and one day, though it will hurt when he has to go, you will smile again and that is what he'd want too.   Take each day at a time for now though. He's still your grandad and he loves you.   Good luck and stay strong, x