How to help a young relationship survive cancer?

Hi All,

I'm just wondering if any of you had any advice for maintaining / growing a relationship when one of you have been diagnosed with cancer? It's early days for us - we're about six months in - and we're waiting to hear on what stage he's at at the moment but it looks like it's a serious one. I'm likely to be a key caregiver, as his parents don't live in the same city, and I wonder whether acting as a nurse all the time might mean that when he's okay (fingers crossed) we'll find it difficult to get back to 'normal' and the lovely, fledgling but I-hoped-long-term relationship we had before then.

Or is that a selfish and silly question to ask? Has anyone got any hopeful stories of where cancer has bought them closer together with their partner? I guess we were still in the getting to know you stage a little....can we carry on doing that in a way which is healthy, and positive, despite such huge stress and worry?

Thank you!

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  • Hi! I'm in the same boat as my relationship is only 6months old but it's me who has Cancer. I gave my partner the choice to walk away if he wanted as this obviously wasn't on the cards but I got a sharp shrift with an answer to that! He has been great and has made me realise he is such a genuine guy I wish I had met him years ago. I think you getting to know your partner at the worst possible time but if it survives this then it was meant to be. I know normally your just finding your feet at this stage in a realationship but it's a test of both characters and feeling for each other. I hope that helps a little and if you need to chat or have a perspective from the other side of the fence then just shout xx

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  • Hi! I'm in the same boat as my relationship is only 6months old but it's me who has Cancer. I gave my partner the choice to walk away if he wanted as this obviously wasn't on the cards but I got a sharp shrift with an answer to that! He has been great and has made me realise he is such a genuine guy I wish I had met him years ago. I think you getting to know your partner at the worst possible time but if it survives this then it was meant to be. I know normally your just finding your feet at this stage in a realationship but it's a test of both characters and feeling for each other. I hope that helps a little and if you need to chat or have a perspective from the other side of the fence then just shout xx

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