Feeling my Dad has Advanced cancer.

My Dad has an ulcer under his tongue so after 2weeks his GP sent him to see a consultant at hospital within a week & told us it was not an ulcer but cancer & that my Dad has had it a long time not just 2 weeks & it was under his teeth & in his jaw as well, he said it was big (over 3cm I think)  he is waiting for a biopsy, cat scan & he already had a full blood test on the day,my Dad didn't ere all of it.Consultant said it would take 4 weeks & if I had any questions  but I couldn't think at the time. My Dad was 76 on the 14.04.15  & his appointment was the same day.He in as lost weight because he's not eating as he's in a lot of pain plus having difficulty chewing & some times he is finding it hard to talk, he is now on stronger painkillers & morphine as well, he has toothache & ear ache as well as not having any energy in him as that's not him. I know there will be no treatment for him as not in good health plus they would of got him tested by now. I am only just holding it together as I'm with him every day so it's going to be so hard when we find out it is & knowing I will lose him one day, just don't know how to cope with it.

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     Hi suz

    So sorry 2 ere that as I know how u feel it's so hard but there every1 on ere will talk 2 u & help u if they can, I'm finding it so hard 2 as u don't want 2 get upset in front of them, but at the min my Dad don't know he has it but once they tell me how far it has spread I wouldn't know what 2 do as he's my life, it's had but we r all ere 4 u & take 1 day at a time u take care x

  •  Hi Suz, so sorry to hear about your dad. It's a very scarey thing to be told. When I was diagnosed I thought the worst immediately, but there are people here that live with cancer as a chronic disease managing to live a good life. Maybe your Dad will be one of them. I do hope so. Wishing your dad and you well. Aemi x

     

     

  • Hi Suz, 

    I hope things are more bearable for you and your dad. Just wanted to let you know we're still thinking of you. 

    Wishing your dad well

    Hugs Aemi x

  • Hi Aemi

    Yes still hanging in there as I take it day by day & it means a lot knowing you are all there for me if I need to take, I have just reply to Jules as I don't know if I reply to each one or do one big reply to every one? As not that good with my spelling as even when it's right it don't to me lol you take care x