My 80 year old dad is having a ct scan on the 9th of this month but doesn't see his specialist for the results until the 27th. He hasn't been diagnosed with cancer but the doctor's instructions for the scan suggests they are looking for bone mesastatis. I know that this means that they are suspicious of a secondary cancer but are not sure yet where the primary cancer may be. All I see is my dad getting weaker by the day - he has every symptom of lung cancer and is feeling tired and weak. My worry is that until he gets diagnosed he may not be receiving the right care. He lives on his own and although I am around at his house for much of the day, it is still a horrible time for him. What makes it worse is that I am finding it difficult sometimes to care for him. I feel awful saying this but I hate my dad being so dependent and dread if he has a toilet accident or needs more intimate care. I know he would absolutely hate it too. I'm not sure I have it in me to be a very good carer - I am doing everything I can in terms of making sure my dad takes his painkillers, gets enough to drink and eats food whenever he wants to eat (which is very rare) I'm taking him out in the car every day to get a change of scenery. I just hate that I feel grumpy with him at some point every day. How do people get through this rubbish time before diagnosis?
