amazing mum has brain and lung cancer

Hi all New to this. Found on Facebook and thought id give it ago. Mum was diagnosed with breast cancer july 2013. She had op but refused chemo as lymph nodes clear but her cancer type taken away was aggressive. We had a great yr then December 2014 we thought she had stroke. But scan showed brain cancer. She has quite large areas on right side. Other scans showed 3 tumours in lungs to. She has had WBR for two weeks and has done amazing. But she refuses chemo as she is too weak. Her fatigue is horrid. Its almost 7 weeks since radio and she not picking up. The steroids are being reduced weekly as these too have had adverse effect as been on since December. She has muscle wastage in arms and legs. Mum is only 67. She is an amazing lady but I know the fatigue is having a massice impact. Not just physical but mental now. I know im going to lose her to this. But none of us have asked a prognosis. We know its terminal. But I cant ask docs as we are all different. They could say months yet we have more or visa versa. Mum is the rock of family. My dad is brilliant looking after her. Im there as much as I can be as I have 4 yr old boy. Im keeping faith and hope. Just living day by day. But losing her I can't think about. It hurts soo much watching her. Shes the last thing I think of at night and the first thing in morning. Just wondered how you cope. Esp tellinga young bboy his grandma is ill. Ivesaid to him ggrandma brain not well and he makes her laugh saying they fixed it yet. Her hair loss doesn't worry him. He really is good for her to be around. Just feel empty. Lou
  • Hi Passey

    Sorry to hear about your mum.

    I'm sure your son gives her a boost, along with the fact that you and your dad are close by and caring for her.

    We have some information on talking to children about cancer here.

    I hope it is helpful and that you receive a reply soon from others with similar experiences who can offer you their advice and support.

    Best wishes

    Jane

     

  • HI

    Sorry to hear about your mum, my name is Sara I'm 31 and I lost my dear mummy 2 weeks ago. I like go come on here as I feel it helps me speaking to people who are on the same position and I now like to try and help people that still have their loved ones here. I know what your going through my mum had bowel cancer for 4 years and by the end it was everywhere! I never thought she would die and I didn't spend enough time with her and now it's to late.vherish every moment make sure age sees your little boy as much as possible. My mum never got to see grandchildren.. Do u feel like you shud ask the doctors how long? If u do then do it do what u feel is right. They cudnt tell us a time with my mum.i hope I don't mind the advice, keep me posted. Thinking of u x