My dad died a couple of years ago of lung cancer, he died 2 weeks after diagnosis and was so quick I didn't get to say goodbye, I lost my nan last year to dementia and shingles that went to her brain and watched her suffer, now my mum has beaten cancer twice before in the breast but now she has been told she has lung cancer which has spread to her liver and bones and only has a few months, I am trying to be strong for her and making her laugh as much as possible but I am breaking! When I am not taking my mum to appointments or helping her I have to work, I have no friends I can talk to - please someone tell me how to cope
Hi Dipy, I am so sorry to read what you have been through and are currently going through. I don't think any of us know how to cope but somehow we do. I sympathise with losing your Dad so quickly after diagnosis, the same thing happened to me, my Dad died 3 weeks from diagnosis in 2013 and then my Mum died 5 months later 9 weeks after diagnosis. When you have watched somebody you love deteriorate and die from this evil disease you are terrified of going through it again because you feel like you know what's to come. It sounds like you are doing everything you can for your Mum but it is important that you have some support for yourself. I found this site an amazing support during my darkest days, I joined when my Mum was dying and like you I really didn't think I could cope. I found some amazing people on here and that is why I still log on today. I really hope that you find this forum a help too; nobody on here judges you and it really helps to write things down and get things of your chest. Take care and keep posting. Hope23
