Hello Hope

Thanks for your kind words and I never believed I could have a full diary so early in the New Year!! Thankfully everyone I have to approach is 'with it' and helping me through the process and it is good to be kept busy (I keep looking at the ironing and then decide to do something else ha ha). All plans for the celebration of hubby's life now finalised and am slowly going through the process of all the formal notifications - paperwork surrounds me!!

Hope you and the family are doing okay.Hugs  Jules x

Hello Jules keeping busy is a way of coping but please take your time all these changes that have to be made are hard to deal with having to phone elec, gas, water ,phone, and internet and ask them to have accounts  put into our names as hubby has gone is awful how we do it I dont know but we seem to manage somehow ,banks have bad press but my bank was so helpful and thoughtful at the time patiently going through everything and explaining in a way that I could understand helped ..Iam so glad you have family close by and that you felt able to chat to hubbys work mates and that you found it calming too Jules take it easy and look after yourself ,my thoughts are with you and a Big Hug sent ..Sueanne x

Hi Jules.

Not at all surprised that keeping busy is helping you to cope but I am also glad you are taking time for the occasional emotional outburst as we both know how important it is to release the emotion and the pain.  Not releasing the pain properly is no doubt one of the things that helped to get me into the position I found myself.  As you know demons have been a regular visitor to my door ever since.

I had a visit from the I.T. assessor today after I completed, and passed my computer course.  Her name is Natalie and she is such a nice girl who unfortunately ended up in tears as the pressure of her work is getting too much for her.  It turns out she is another victim of bigwigs who put wealth and aquisition ahead of the welfare of others.  Anyway I am hoping she stays with her company long enough to get me through a management course I am starting in March.

Right, after that little ramble I will head off and leave you with love and hugs.

Until later my friend.

Garf. xxxx

Well done Garf with the IT computer exam pass. Yes about demons = the emotions are funny things and dont take alot of tinkering or bottling! We are living with berievement of mum in law who passed last summer from Mr C = the same week my wife was having her cancer operation. They always did things together!

Phew - its a funny old road!

Good luck on the management course. Re the young lady = my friend always said - big companies are penny wise and pound foolish! Not a truer word spoken I think!

Steven 

Hi Sueanne

Can you believe it, spent nearly four hours on the phone yesterday alone and am amazed have woken up this morning with a voice!!!  Last night was the first where I did not sleep so well (bound to happen eventually!) - probably overthinking what lies ahead today with visits to bank and trying to help our daughter who is keeping me company.  No matter how old they are the 'mothering instinct' is currently enormous. Son and son in law both back into work today and we have to attempt some kind of new normal.  Eldest grandson has drawn a picture for grandad to take with him (blubbing now) and he and little Zack still bringing enormous sunshine moments into our days.  Celebration of hubby's life is beginning to look as well attended as his 60th party just three years ago and I think the venue will have a very busy Monday afternoon on the 19th.  Apparently hubby's siblings flying in next Wednesday(heard this from the friend they are 'lodging' with) and am imagining that will be an emotional meeting.

Well breakfast done and dusted and need to sort a few more papers as regards car so we can get taxed(hubby was blue badge holder so did not have to pay!) until Probate granted. as we cannot get it off road.So pleased I have help so see me through the minefield!

Not good here this morning - wet and  miserable .  Hope you managing okay - even in downcast weather your neck of the woods has its own beauty and am thinking of you walking Rusty with wonderful views. Take care my friend.  Hugs  Jules x

Morning Jules,

Have dropped the good of the greeting as it's pouring down here is West Sussex and had got wet doing our shopping this morning. Our back garden path is allready underwater. When I visited grandchildren last night, when it was time for me to come home, my youngest told me he wanted to come home with me so he could say hello to nanny. He even opened the inner door and got me my shoes. However when I reminded him I dont have an EX-BOX, he quickly changed his mind and told me to say hello to nanny instead. They do say never work with children and animals.

I have just ordered Mrs B a six wheel shopping trolley as she told me when the weather gets warmer (and drier) we should walk to the shops to get ourselves more fit. I feel exhausted just thinking about it but know it makes sense. I have got to phone sister in law to find out how brother in law is getiing on. Thanks for asking when you have so much going on right now. I am glad the visiting cat is now wanting your lap as I think animals do bring a lot of comfort to us.

Like Sueanne says, It's good that you are letting your feelings out by having a cry now and then and not bottling your emotions up. I have always belived crying is just natures saftey valve. I never met your hubby  but feel sure he is so proud of you, both for the loving care you gave him and also the way you are coping right now and the amount of things you have allready organised.

Just want to tell you, I found it much harder after mums funeral for I wasnt so busy then and the reality of my loss had begun to set in. Just wanted you to know all your forum friends will be here for you Jules and between us will do all we can to help and support you just as you have done to so many since you joined this site.

We are all still thinking of you, sending big virtual hugs your way, take care of yourself, Brian.

Hi Jules,

I'm glad everybody you have had to deal with is helping you, there is an enormous amount of paperwork etc involved and I know in my experience it was at times overwhelming. Everybody copes differently and if keeping busy is helping you then that is good, but don't expect too much of yourself; remember you don't have to be strong all the time so go with whatever you feel.  Thinking of you.  Hope xx