This discussion has been locked.
You can no longer post new replies to this discussion. If you have a question you can start a new discussion

Continuing the journey

Hi All

Decided to drop the 'month' from the title of this thread as time moves so quickly and the date becomes irrevelant so quickly.

Hubby and I both feeling pretty drained today but not because of his illness. However it is something that has made both us further stressed and 'outside our control'.  Prepare yourselves for a rant or look away now.

Having put in a long work day yesterday (both of us). I switched on my mobile on leaving work to find a message from the social worker for Mum (regular readers of my thread will know what we have been going through recently).  The upshott of this message was that the Social Services panel have decided that they can offer Mum a place at a sheltered housing complex but not the most local one. The call was to advise me of the panel's decision and to tell me that a visit will be arranged this week, preferably by Wednesday, for Mum to be taken to visit the flat and be told about the package of care and how it will work. They require a decision from Mrs K (this is how my mother is addressed in the follow up e-mail!!) by Friday otherwise the placement will be offered to another service provider!  Unfortunately this means Mum has little choice but to move further away (closest sheltered housing has no vacancy and they are  not willing to help fund where she has spent the last 9 months 'settling in').  The guilt I feel at being unable to cope with this is overwhelming, my hubby is very supportive and angry in equal parts and I am dreading the days ahead.  I am unable to take leave and my negative feelings towards her social worker would not work in Mum's favour as she needs to go on the visit with an open mind and the care home staff state she is quite able to make her own mind up.  If she agrees I will be unable to visit as regularly (my problem not theirs of course) but apparently the social worker will accompany her and I have asked to be kept informed.

Even typing this is making me sad/angry/frustrated and emotionally/physically drained.  I was due to visit Mum today but this is on hold until I have spoken to the care home this morning. Hubby says I should leave it till later in the week when we know what is going on and I suspect he is right (bearing in mind my physical upset involves many 'loo' visits (enough said!!)).

Sorry for all the negativity but just needed to get it out and try and get  myself together before I start on the phone calls.

Hope everyone has a good day.  Regards Julesxx

  • Hi Jules,

    Yes the business is a little slower although we had a last miniter yesterday and another today.

    The one today was going abroad but due to medical reason have had to reaarrange a holiday in thtis country and not too far from home (and their hospital).

    So cleaned 2 units today but it does mean I can have a Sunday morning lie in tomorrow if I fancy and I don't have any cleaning this Monday which is unusual.

    I was thinking about Zack the other day and was going to say it must be his first Birthday soon.Is he having a little party??Your daughter did well with her coffee morning, well done her.

    I did the usual of baking for 2 days to help Charlotte for Avas party.

    I love the crawling backwards bit. Ava was walking when I was down there but only just, I think the most steps she has taken at any one time has been 8.

    Yes we had some cuddles. The funniest was carrying her in the supermarket for Charlotte as she got a bit grumpy in the trolley. Charlotte then asked me to get some rich tea biscuits which I did and Ava and I were holding them cuddled between us. Nanna was not being very observant and Charlotte screamed that Ava was eating them, well bless her she had gone through the packageing and eaten the edge of 3 biscuits. Good for her I say. A streak of independence in her. !!!!!!!!!!

    The beauty of this forum is the help and support we can recieve and give to forum buddies.

    I shall be starting a diet soon and so the coffee and scones had this afternoon will be a thing of the past. Got to find my waist again before it's a waste of time.

    Hugs for now

    Annabel. xx

  • Morning Annabel

    Hope you got your lie in.  Sunday morning tends to be my main 'throughout the house' cleaning time (because its my generally free from other duties day ha ha and hubby USUALLY gets up around 10.30).  Imagine I came out of the bathroom and found him already in front of his fishing programmes (7.30) so he has had to put up with me hoovering and polishing round him!!  Now he is asleep again so will move upstairs once I finish the kitchen tidying (won't take long as its very small!)

    Zack is having an afternoon tea the weekend before his birthday (just 8 of us) as his birthday falls on a school day followed by swimming lessons.  In the evening she is having a Childrens' book party (he is in bed by 6.30) so a pretty full day. I am babysitting next Saturday as they are taking the eldest to see 'Seussical' locally and he is very excited.  ts looking lovely outside so once its warmed up a little I will grab my book and be outside.  Spent two hours out there yesterday too (wonderful weather for being lazy and cannot believe its nearly October).Told hubby its warmer outside than inside but he prefers the armchair and there was no budging him.

    Hubby's sister coming for dinner tonight - she has not been around for a couple of  months and think she will be shocked at how frail he has become in that time.  Expecting to hear all about whats happening with regard to trying to sell her place (her other brother has offer on his property now) and how soon they hope to get to the Isle of Man.  I know they would like to get there as soon as possible (especially as ferries are hit and miss when the weather is bad) - she had hoped to be there by now!!

    Thanks again for continued supportive words and hope you enjoy the rest of the weekend.Virtual hugs  Jules x

  • Good morning Jules,

    I apologise for not getting back to you last night. I had a wonderful day at the Wood Fair but was so tired when I got home at 4.45. My legs felt like lumps of lead. i was taken by my son, daughter in law and my youngest grandson who kept giving me a big hug every hour or so. Only bought two pieces of timber, a small branch of Yew and one of Laburnum but got given another piece of Yew. We have a torchlight procession followed by a firework display every year and the grandchildren always want me to go with them to this but last night I had to decline their offer. Must be getting old Jules. I was asleep as soon as my head hit the pillow last night. Yesterday was made even better when I got home as Mrs B had baked me some cheese straws and like Mr Kipling's cake They are exceedingly good. But I got several ideas from yesterday which I can adopt. One stand was selling apples at 20p each. He told us last year he was giving them away for free but people were very suspicious because of this.

    Glad you were able to get out into your garden and read your book and hope you can do the same today. Well, must get out into the garage as I have found a nearly completed chess board and want to get this completed for my next show.

    Take care Jules, best wishes to you and Hubby, Brian


  • Hi Brian

    Really pleased that you had a lovely day out at the Wood event and lots of hugs  and a good night's sleep too.   The weather was great the whole weekend and I spent the whole of yesterday afternoon in the garden (well until my sister in law arrived at around 4.30.  Just have one chapter left to read of my current read.

      Hubby spent much of the day asleep but did manage egg on toast for lunch.  His sister filled us in on their plans and as one house is sold subject to contract and she has private pension to release, they hope to leave for the Isle of Man in 6 weeks (their offer on property there also accepted).  She will pop back every few weeks until her place sells and apparently they are having an 'open day' prior to leaving so that family and friends can call to say goodbye - she will let us know the date.  They have a lot of hard work ahead as the property needs total renovation on the inside plus new windows (it was a bargain price!) so sounds like they will be 'camping' there whilst they do the work.  My brother in law is 'very  handy' and I am sure it will look great eventually and they are all looking forward to 'retirement'.  Keeping my fingers crossed that all goes well with my sister in laws results from her recent body scan (she is having investigations into a small mass under her skin to the side of her neck (appointment around 7th October)) but has genetic medical problems too which she will need to travel to Liverpool and Manchester hospitals on a fairly regular basis (she is currently seen in London ) so they have a lot going to organise in the next few weeks.

    I am still feeling nervous about Hubby's GP appointment tomorrow but not long to wait to find out her thoughts on his condition  and why she needs to see me!

    Wishing you and Mrs B a peaceful day (hope the chessboard is coming along and no doubt you are busy making plans for your new wood).  Take care  Jules x

  • Hi Jules,

    Just a quick message to wish you and hubby all the best for tomorrow's appointment.

    Will be thinking about you both.

    Take care.

    Sending virtual hugs, Jo xx

  • Hello Jules ,I hope all goes well for you and hubby tomorrow at the Drs talking is good ...Big hug as usual x ....Susananne

  • Hi Julie's

    I just wanted to say I'm thinking of you and hubby

    And wish you good luck for tomorrows appointment

    With the gp . Hugs xx

  • Hi Jules,

    Just to say will be thinking of you tomorrow as you go to hubby's appointment.  Hope x

  • Hi Jules,

    Just a quick post to say I will be thinking of you today when you visit your hubby's GP. 

    Lets hope she can come up with a plan to  help hubby, not just for his sake but for you as well for his well bieng is impacting on you so much

    Take care, best wishes, Brian.

  • Morning Jules,

    Sending lots of supportive hugs to you and hope your Hubbys appointment goes well for both of you.

    hugs

    Annabel. xx