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Continuing the journey

Hi All

Decided to drop the 'month' from the title of this thread as time moves so quickly and the date becomes irrevelant so quickly.

Hubby and I both feeling pretty drained today but not because of his illness. However it is something that has made both us further stressed and 'outside our control'.  Prepare yourselves for a rant or look away now.

Having put in a long work day yesterday (both of us). I switched on my mobile on leaving work to find a message from the social worker for Mum (regular readers of my thread will know what we have been going through recently).  The upshott of this message was that the Social Services panel have decided that they can offer Mum a place at a sheltered housing complex but not the most local one. The call was to advise me of the panel's decision and to tell me that a visit will be arranged this week, preferably by Wednesday, for Mum to be taken to visit the flat and be told about the package of care and how it will work. They require a decision from Mrs K (this is how my mother is addressed in the follow up e-mail!!) by Friday otherwise the placement will be offered to another service provider!  Unfortunately this means Mum has little choice but to move further away (closest sheltered housing has no vacancy and they are  not willing to help fund where she has spent the last 9 months 'settling in').  The guilt I feel at being unable to cope with this is overwhelming, my hubby is very supportive and angry in equal parts and I am dreading the days ahead.  I am unable to take leave and my negative feelings towards her social worker would not work in Mum's favour as she needs to go on the visit with an open mind and the care home staff state she is quite able to make her own mind up.  If she agrees I will be unable to visit as regularly (my problem not theirs of course) but apparently the social worker will accompany her and I have asked to be kept informed.

Even typing this is making me sad/angry/frustrated and emotionally/physically drained.  I was due to visit Mum today but this is on hold until I have spoken to the care home this morning. Hubby says I should leave it till later in the week when we know what is going on and I suspect he is right (bearing in mind my physical upset involves many 'loo' visits (enough said!!)).

Sorry for all the negativity but just needed to get it out and try and get  myself together before I start on the phone calls.

Hope everyone has a good day.  Regards Julesxx

  • Hi Jules

    Hope hubby likes the Port a Puzzle for his birthday and fingers crossed it will give him something to do.

    I am not sure whether to be jealous of your haircut or not.  One the one hand I am saving money by not needing them at present but on the other hand it was always nice to go for one and get spoiled (my neice is also my haridresser).

    Hope the weekend weather is good so we can all get out in the garden.

    Best wishes.

    Gill

  • Hi Jules,

    Another nice day and hope work has treated you kindly today. Have just come back from our local garden centre. Mrs B didn't see any plants that took her fancy but did love a resin cast collie dog (her favourite dog)  which I bought for her as an extra mothers day present,  while I had to content myself with a bag of chocolate coated peanuts. Guess who got the better deal but as the ad says "she's worth it". Just taken a close up of a bee on one of our hyacinths which I have sent to you.

    Hope your trip to see your mum goes okay on Sunday and you have a good time and get spoilt by your family

    Take care best wishes and hugs, Brian.

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  • Hi Gill

    Hubby will probably say (he always does!!) that's nice and put it to one side.  However I can at least suggest we can do it together (when I get fed up with the repeats on the tv)

    My friend has lost, regrown, lost, regrown several times over many years of treatment and says this is her way of having different styles without expense (she gave up on wigs when the neighbours thought there was an intruder in the garden!!) and the kids she taught at the time said she looked cool in her different varieties of headgear!!   I would suggest you find another treat to spend the money on so you feel well and truly pampered.  I did not mean to be insensitive when I mentioned going.

    Raining here at present so the lawn will have to wait to be mowed (hopefully on  Saturday) as have visitors on Sunday.  Hope you feeling okay and have a peaceful weekend.  Jules xx

  • Beautiful photo Brian, thank you.  Hyazinths are one of my Mums' favourite flower (loves the perfume).  I was lucky enough to find a pretty little jug decorated with a butterfly which has a miniature rose inside it.  Goes perfectly with the 'butterfly' card I had already got for Mum.

      You may have had to spend a little more on Mrs B's collie dog ornament but I bet it lasts longer than your chocolate covered nuts.  Hope your writing is still going well and shall be watching out for when you tell us you are in 'electronic' print.  Your grandchildren will be rightly as proud of you as you are of them. Wishing you and Mrs B a sunny and peaceful weekend.  We have had a couple of showers this afternoon so now have to wait to mow again but outlook looks warmer for the weekend.Jules xx

  • Good morning Jules,

    Chocolate peanuts have all gone!!!!!!!!!!!! but the collie dog had pride of place on the fireplace mantle shelf. Will have to get out and mow the lawns later as the grass is really growing fast. Bet you have made the best of the nice weather and have spent time in your garden, probably with a good book.I read you have managed to plant the dahlias. My mother always grew loads of these every year.

    I have been trying hard the last couple of days to get another book finnished which is one that is more for my two grandsons.

    Hope you have been spoilt today's for Mothers Day. May take Mrs B out for another drive in the country this afternoon if she feels up to it but her sugar ( diabetes ) went very low this morning and this always tends to make her feel tired.

    Mrs B has been throwing out hints about how nice it would be if I were doing the cooking today. I replied I can only cook four things (chips, baked beans, peas and toast) and often the toast gets burnt.   I had offered to take her out for dinner but this was declined as she doesn't like crowded restaurants.

    Take care Jules have a peacful day, best wishes to you and your husband and family, Brian.

  • Hi Brian

    Back from visiting my Mum and have my children popping in later.  May get out in the garden for 'playtime' - have bought a 'Swingball' as a surprise for eldest grandson (and probably the adult kids too).  Lawn mowed Friday afternoon and have spent some time out there pottering.  Not surprised the chocolate peanuts are gone - a good excuse to take a short drive to the 'nut' shop!!  Hope MrsB recovers sufficiently to enjoy a short trip out as its lovely today but blood sugar levels can knock you for six.  Hope you enjoy the rest of the weekend and do not tire yourself out mowing.  Do I see a beans on toast for dinner with the burnt bits cut off.  Down to me to cook - hubby fancied roast so no let off today (may do takeaway on Wednesday as its his birthday and he can have a break from my cooking ha ha).  Take care  Jules xx

  • Hi Jules,

    Hope you had a lovely day with your children and grandchildren and that everybody enjoyed Swingball - I love it!  Hope your Mum was good too when you visited.  Difficult day for me but got by, boys spoilt me and sun was shining.  Take care.  Hope x

  • Hi Had a Good day with family but felt bad guts up the wall trotts lot of loo trips well[[ ]] that is me at 80 plus 

  • Morning George

    Great octogenarian and amazing that you can have great day with the family despite the continuing tummy problems. Did you  have your appointment last week?

    I managed a good weekend and have lovely flowers/plant in our lounge from our children for Mothering Sunday.  Eldest grandson (and adults) enjoyed time outside in the sunshine.

    Take care of yourself.Jules xx

  • Morning Hope

    No doubt you are back to work this morning.  Hope your lads gave you a bit of special pampering but imagine it was pretty emotional day. 

    The weather was lovely here and we spent most of the afternoon (apart from hubby who was enjoying motorsport on tv) in and out playing in the garden and enjoying the sunshine.  I received lots of attention and have lovely vases of flowers and an indoor azalea tree brightening our lounge now.  More celebrations to come on Wednesday as its hubby's birthday and daughter and family are bringing in fish and chips (his choice of takeaway!!) so I enjoy another treat too (no need to cook). His sister and brother are away looking for somewhere to buy on the I O M so am hoping they remember and pick up a phone!

    Well best clear up my breakfast things and wake hubby before I leave for work.  He has GP chat this morning (she always sees him around a week after his hospital check up to go through up to date situation).  Have a good day.   Hugs.  Jules xx