My daughter and daughter in law are both having treatment for aggressive breast cancer and my dad died last month of bowel cancer . I am trying to be supportive but i am beginning to feel overwhelmed and feeling exhausted . My daughter has an 11 year daughter and a 25 year old son who i am trying to keep an eye on as they struggle albiet quietly . Her partner works full time as do her close friends so i do all the appointments and treatments with her. My daughter in law has a good network of support with my son and her parents but I also don't want her to feel I am not supporting her and their two teenage children . I also need to grieve for the loss of my Dad who I adored and who was always my biggest support . I have a husband who doesn't worry and tells me to take one day at a time and says he's not stressed as he believes everything will come right, which makes me feel pathetic . I have lots of friends and they are brilliant but they cant understand this feeling of powerlessness I have. What can I do before I go under with the stress and then be no good to anyone?