Struggling - my partner is in palliative treatment for bowel cancer and I'm so angry

My partner was diagnosed with stage 4C bowel cancer a few months ago, and the uncertainty is just horrible. He’s started chemotherapy (palliative) but I’m just so angry. 
is this normal? I’m angry with him, because it’s like he’s given up. I’m angry with his oncologist, because I don’t feel he’s being honest with him (I have a medical background) and we have a young family. He’s refusing any surgery at Basingstoke because he says it’s too brutal. I can’t say I blame him there because it is, I just feel very alone and trying to hold everything together. 

  • Heya. Welcome to the forums in order to begin with. Maybe see if counselling can help you both. Hugs. This is hard but you don’t have to do it alone. We are here for you. It might be an idea to call the help line 0808 800 4040 to chat to a nurse. Hopefully you can get more advice that way.