Helping teenage children with a terminally ill parent - has anyone else been in this situation? My husband has only weeks to live

My husband has been given weeks to live after battling a brain tumour for 11 years.  He is 45 and our children are 13 and 15.  They have never known him well but with them at the age they are now and him deteriorating rapidly now I am asking if anyone else is in a similar situation or is helping their teenage children with a terminally ill parent.  They dont know anyone else in their world who is going through anything like this.  In the midst of it all I want to help them with the loneliness of the struggle.  Thank you all.

  • A very warm welcome to the Cancer Chat community Nellie3 although I'm very sorry to hear your husband is entering the latter stages of his diagnosis after a very long and brave battle with brain cancer.

    I can't begin to imagine what you must all be going through but I hope it helps to know that we are here for you Nellie and we will do all we can to support you and your family at this very difficult time. 

    I hope this guidance we have about talking to teenagers will be useful, but you may also want to look at the information and advice given by Marie Curie on how to support a teenager when someone has a terminal illness and Macmillan on preparing a teenager for loss.

    There is support your children can access too. Winston's Wish is a charity that offers free online grief support to young people across the UK who are bereaved or facing the death of someone important in their lives. They also have a dedicated online space called Talking Grief where children can talk to others of a similar age about bereavement and coping with loss. Another charity, Hope Support services, supports young people aged 5-25 who have a loved one with a serious illness and Hope Again offers a safe space for young people who are coping with grief.

    If you haven't had a chance to do so yet, try and let your children's school know what is happening at home as the school may have a wellbeing officer, nurse or specific teacher your children can to talk to and seek out on-going support.
    Hopefully some of our members will offer their support and advice to you soon but you can also speak to our cancer nurses on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very understanding and will do all they can to help.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator