Hi Sarah-b65, 

What a shock it must have been for you to find out that your husband has been diagnosed with terminal cancer and that he has been given a maximum of 3 years. It must be a bit difficult for you that he doesn't want to accept help from others especially as you are working full time and have a demanding job. 

There is interesting information on our website about how a cancer diagnosis can affect family, friends and carers which I hope you will find useful and it is important also not to forget to take care of yourself especially as you have such a stressful role at work and it can be easy to forget oneself when looking after a loved one with cancer. 

It's very hard to know how things will develop and what adjustments or decisions will have to be made in the future but you could perhaps discuss this with your husband's medical team and ask them to give you an indication as to what to expect even if it can be difficult to predict. 

Our cancer nurses are also available on this free number 0808 800 4040 if you would like to talk things through or ask them for advice - their helpline is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator