Mum (76) got a diagnosis the week before Christmas. All indications are already stage 4.  But she's hospital phobic, agoraphobic and med related brain fogged. She's refused all appointments and doesn't recognise that she's even ill. Dad is trying to look after her but he's at the end of his rope.  She's being obnoxious and awful to him 24 hrs. He knows it's not her fault but it's ripping him up. Diagnosis came with a dvt so she's been bedridden for a couple of months. I'm having a daily sob about it.