Mum has NSCLC stage 4, with spread to brain, just had a massive stroke

My mum was diagnosed with stage 4 NSCLC back in November (hardly seems any time ago at all), and at the time of diagnosis only reported met was to her adrenal gland. Shortly after christmas, just after she had started treatment, it was found that the cancer had spread to her brain and she was referred for gamma knife radiation. During the gamma knife planning scans it was found that she had way way more extensive mets in her brain than they thought, kind of crazy given that she was completely functional. Shortly after having the gamma knife, she started to feel very unwell and was admitted to hospital, a few days later she had a massive stroke. 

I just don't know what to do with myself. When she was diagnosed they told her she probably had a few more years ahead of her with immunotherapy treatment, and now without even really getting going on any treatment she is basically a vegetable. She doesn't recognize me, and she is completely paralyzed down her left side and unable to speak. 

I know her chances of any meaningful recovery are basically zero. I can't believe how quickly we have gone from 'a couple good years left' to her basically being dead. 

Just looking to share with people who get it I guess... i wish i had known when i left the hospital yesterday that it would be the last real conversation i ever got to have with her.

  • Hello Allymac

    I'm so very sorry to hear about your Mum's health problems over the last few months and the situation that you now find yourselves in. Life can be very cruel at times, and I'm sad for you both that you won't get the time that you thought you had together. 

    Obviously, this is a very difficult time for you, and I hope that you have friends and loved ones around you. If it would help to talk with one of our team of nurses at any point, you're welcome to call them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information and support they can. 

    I don't know what the plan is for your Mum's care going forward from this point. I hope that you are both well supported by the health professionals involved in her care. 

    Do post again on the forum if it helps to have a safe space to put down in words how you're feeling. We're here for you. 

    Sending my best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator