My husband has cancer and I’m lost

My husband has cancer, i feel annoyed, our dreams have gone

  • I am lonely and try to smile but struggling 

  • Hello Jojo747474

    I'm so very sorry to hear that your husband has been diagnosed with cancer. It's understandable that this is a difficult time, and you may be feeling overwhelmed by things. 

    Are you able to share a little more about your situation? I hope that you are being well supported by family and friends and health care professionals. 

    I know many people have found it helpful to talk with someone about they're feeling. If you'd like to chat with one of our nurses, I know they would be happy to listen and offer any advice, information, and support they can. If you'd like to talk with them, they're available Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    Cancer can feel like a very lonely place. Please keep posting here on the forum if it helps to have a safe space to put down in writing how you're feeling. We are here for you.

    Sending you both my best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

  • Hi Jojo,  I am sorry to hear that your husband has cancer.  I have secondary breast cancer which means it cannot be cured.  When I found out my husband and I thought our world had turned upside down.  We bought a house overseas and planned to move there permanently this year.  We cannot do this now.  But we have now made new plans smaller plans but still plans.  It does get easier as time goes by.  In the beginning I didn't even know if I would see Christmas but I know now that I will see many Christmases.  We went on holiday to Portugal last year and are going to Iceland next week.  A cancer diagnosis is hard and takes time and the treatment can be difficult but it is not the end and you can still have dreams.  Sending you big hugs.

    Lee x