hello, i’m so sorry to hear about your mum. my grandad has just recently been diagnosed with lung cancer and has been told he has 6 months if he can’t put weight on. from what i’ve seen my mum doing (who is his full time carer) is to try help them feel as if they are not alone and that someone is always there - even if it’s a phone call a few times a day when you have time or popping into see them whenever you’re free. 

with the crying, i don’t think there is anything to say to make you feel better. i’ve cried nearly every night since he has been diagnosed and it’s heartbreaking seeing him in this condition. what helps me sometimes is thinking of the memories we shared, whether that’s an experience we did when i was small or just taking him shopping even just spending time in his house with him. 

i try not to think about what life would be without him, only due to it making me cry, but i know what he would want me to do. i just know that he would want my family to stay close and for us to not be sad. 

until she loses the ability to eat try feed her as much as her digestive system can contain, invest in protein shakes and anything including protein and electrolytes. i know for my grandad he can get it on prescription, so talk to your GP or if your mum is entitled to a district nurse ask them what to do, and she should also have a palliative care team. 

again, so sorry for you and your mum. and you will get through this tough time. <3

thank you for replying, im so sorry to hear about your grandad as well.

i’ll definitely spend as much time as i can with mum, and call her when i can’t. recalling good memories is a nice idea, would definitely help when i’m afraid of the future without her, and i know she likes showing me her photos from when we were all younger.

Its reassuring to hear i’m not the only one crying a lot, too.

i’ve been trying to come up with meals i can prep for her that suit her new diet, getting GP advice would be a good idea on that front, thank you for mentioning it! and lots of protein and electrolytes, absolutely.

it’s an awful time, truly, i’m sorry youre also going through it with your grandad. all we can do is keep going, you’re right, and thank you so much for your reply. you’ll get through this too <3

Hi .. I am so, so sorry to hear about your Mum, as a mum myself my heart is breaking for you, you are so young to be going through this awful time. My stepson has been given a terminal diagnosis too and we are all finding it difficult and all coping in different ways and yes crying a lot which is ok, it’s normal under the circumstances so don’t feel guilty about it.

Your Mum will probably be worried about you too, I think if you can, please attend Uni and complete your degree as that will make her so proud. I am sure the Uni will support you and give you extensions if needed.

Also try to visit your local Maggie's (you can pop in any time you don’t need an appointment) as they are a great support and will help you talk about your concerns. I do understand the initial walking in might be difficult for you but it’s really worth it to take that first step through the door.

Most importantly I can see by your post that you are a very good son, the best in fact  .. you don’t ever need to worry yourself about that. Just try and get through one day at a time. I’m sorry I can’t help much but know I’m sending  you lots of love and hugs and will keep you in my thoughts. Try and have the best Christmas with your Mum ️ xxxxxxx