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A very hard day - everything seems to hit me in waves. Husband has advanced renal cancer and the reality of what lies ahead has hit me hard

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Hi all

Its been a really hard day today. Everything seems to hit me in waves. I'm usually quite strong or feel that I am but not today. Today the reality of what lies ahead has really hit me hard. My husband has renal cancer which has spread to brains, lung , bones and pancreas. I not sure how long he has left but know its not long. He is in pain and I feel so helpless to stop the pain. He's so frustrated as he is now wheelchair bound and can't do anything. He used to be such an active man. 

Not sure what I'm hoping anyone will say. There's no easy answers but sometimes it helps to write things down - or so I've been told.

Anyway, so sorry for everyone who is going through this. Tomorrow is another day with fresh perspective I'll deal with what comes. I hope you all manage some sleep. 

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    Take it a step at a time, whether that's 1 hour, a day,a week, whatever works for you both. Above all know you are doing your best and make the most of the better times he has and create some lasting memories xx

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    Hi Alice

    As you say taking it hour by hour or day or week makes things feel more manageable. Thank you for your message, you are so right it is all about memories. Ive been trying to keep on top of housework and things too (we have a new dog - bonkers but it was one of our wishes) and I think I'm trying to do too much. Memories are more important. xx

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    Hi Alice

    As you say taking it hour by hour or day or week makes things feel more manageable. Thank you for your message, you are so right it is all about memories. Ive been trying to keep on top of housework and things too (we have a new dog - bonkers but it was one of our wishes) and I think I'm trying to do too much. Memories are more important. xx

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