A very warm welcome to Cancer Chat Firpark1 although I'm sorry to hear your wife was recently diagnosed with bladder cancer.

This must be a very difficult time for you both, but I'm glad you've decided to reach out to us as so many of our members will understand what you are going through, so you are not alone Firpark1, and hopefully you will receive some support and advice from the community soon. 

I hope this information we have for family, friends and caregivers will be useful as well but if you would like to have a chat with one of our cancer nurses, they're available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very insightful and will do all they can to support you at this time.

We know how scary this must be Firpark1, but I hope you can take some strength, and comfort, from knowing that we are here for you and will be by your side on every step of this journey.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thanks for your kind words we will stick together as a family.

My wife has been found to have a shadow on her lung. Tomorrow we will hear the news, but I hope it's not bad news, and I hope whatever it is, will be sorted out really quickly. I can't talk to anyone for fear of losing it, my head is upside down, and my poor wife is, understandably, worried sick. But, as she says, one day at a time.

My mum was diagnosed with bladder cancer a few weeks ago. She is having surgery to remove her bladder on Monday. 

It’s such a huge shock but by reading information and asking lots of questions we’ve felt as informed as possible. 

I still have a lot of questions though

I am also new to this but felt I needed to write down my thoughts after my husbands cancer diagnosis. It is difficult because you want to appear strong to help but all the time you are lost and questioning everything you do. Are you doing it right? Is there something you should be doing and do not know ? . You feel selfish when you think about yourself but you know everyone has a different journey but talking can help as this is two people trying to cope with the diagnosis. You just have to be there for the person but have some respite for yourself to relax, cry or just space to get it together.

Yep I was diagnosed with bladder cancer and had it removed now been told it’s spread all over