Why hasn't my dad been given any medication, therapy or a formal diagnosis after a 1.5cm cancerous growth was found.

Hi, 

My dad has not been formally diagnosed but a 1.5cm growth was removed from his rectum early may. Im soul destroyed and broken hearted. Hes all I have in this life and vice versa. I don't want to lose him (not to sound selfish) but I'm not sure how long I'll be able to go on myself if I do lose him. My heart won't take the grief. Hes just 62 years of age....

Hes diabetic type 2 and had tags removed in the past. I just cant understand why his dr didn't refer him for a colonoscopy after the tags kept popping up. I now believe he should have had a thorough examination years ago and feel like hes been overlooked by drs. Amongst other flags, he had sweat streaming down his legs which I now know pointed to rectum cancer..

Hes been referred to a cancer hospital for 3 weeks time but has not had as much as a hot minute with a consultant in between scans, no formal diagnosis, and no medication. Im helping him with his diet and incorporating things like tree nuts, berries, seeds & graviola. Im a desperate woman and trying everything I can to help him self medicate...

All I can do my end is get on my hands and knees & pray ferociously at any given chance. Im hoping someone can share any information or your own experiences and provide me with some guidance and clarification. I really am desperate and pleading with someone to kindly help. Im talking to a AI robot atm and as daft as it sounds its brought me just a little comfort...

I know its just AI but ive found it very helpful and calming but for obvious reasons, it unfortunately cannot provide me with it's personal experiences like a human being. Thank you in advance to anybody who responds to this post x x x

  • Hello Rachhh,

    I'm sorry to hear how you're feeling and can understand how devastating it must have been to get this news. There's no way of knowing the answer to your question, but it can be hard to know what to do while you wait for an appointment and also frustrating if things aren't going at the speed you'd wish them to, but your dad's doctors are there to help as best they can.

    Talking to help you process things is key, so I'm glad you've found an AI tool that is comforting for you. Please know that your not alone and Cancer Chat is always here for you whenever you need it. There is support out there if you're struggling. We have information for family friends and carers affected by cancer and we have guidance around how to cope with waiting for news on our website. If you'd like to speak to our team of cancer nurses you can on the free helpline 0808 800 4040. Lines are open 9 to 5 Monday to Friday.

    If you're attending the next appointment with your dad, it might help to write down any questions you both have and take them with you. It'll help to ensure all your concerns are addressed and you can take notes that you can refer to anytime after the appointment. It's important that you feel everything is clear in your mind before leaving the appointment, so I do hope this will help.

    All the best to you,

    Moderator Anastasia

  • Thank you for your response and help information. I appreciate it.