Hello Kbro, 

I am so sorry to hear about your husband's pancreatic cancer diagnosis - it must be such an anxious time for you as you are waiting for the results and to get more clarity and more details regarding staging and treatment plans. As you said, it's the unknown that can be truly terrifying and hopefully you will have all the information very soon once you have been given the biopsy results. It's so difficult sometimes to find the right words to support a loved one with cancer or as you said to know how to be there for him without him feeling overwhelmed. There is information on our website for Family, friends and caregivers  where you will find out more about how to support someone with cancer. There isn't obviously one steadfast rule on how best to support someone with cancer and I am sure, as you know your husband best, just going with your instinct and intuition will work wonders but I hope you will find that page interesting and it even has a nice little video with tips from people with cancer about talking to someone with cancer. 

I would also like to make you aware of our page on talking to children about cancer which will have some useful tips and I am sure other members of our community will have been in a similar place before and will be along shortly to share their experience with you. 

We're thinking of you and your husband during this difficult time and wanted you to know that we are all here for you anytime you want to offload. If there is anything you want to discuss or ask about once you get all the details of the diagnosis, feel free to give our cancer nurses a call on this free number 0808 800 4040 - their helpline is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator