My husband has an aggressive brain tumour and has been told he can expect to live for another six months. He had always been a kind, gentle and placid person, but has become verbally abusive at the slightest thing. It could be the interpretation of a look, how I ask a question, whether I choose to speak or not, whether I turn a light on or off etc. He accuses me of saying things I have not and does not remember things he has agreed to. In public he still presents as the same calm and gentle man he was, but behind closed doors he is totally different.
This change in his personality is causing me a lot of distress and I am now frightened of him. I try to avoid him if possible, I only speak when spoken to, go to bed early or late etc. If the abuse changes from verbal to physical should I call 999 and are the police trained to deal with someone like my husband? Would he be dealt with in the same way that any other abusive partner would or would he be sectioned because he has 'a mental problem'.
I wanted our last months together to be a time to make happy memories. I don't want to remember my husband for the wrong reasons or wish him gone before his time. I have contacted his doctor regarding the changes, but not said that I am concerned for my own safety. I have to be careful in case he finds out that I have been discussing him 'behind his back'.
