Stage IV bowel cancer with liver metastasis shock diagnosis

My husband has recently been diagnosed with the above. He had no symptoms apart from losing a little weight. He is a type 2 diabetic. He has 3 monthly blood tests and 1yearly overall health blood tests which picked up an abnormal level in his liver. From then within a space of 3 weeks he was diagnosed.   It has been a huge shock to us both as he doesn’t feel ill or have noticeable symptoms. We saw an oncologist this week & yesterday he had a picc line fitted in his chest for commencement of chemo in the next week or so. I don’t know how i feel about the chemo, I’m scared it will be worse than the actual cancer. He was his normal self and now he is faced with this toxic cocktail of drugs to keep him alive for a longer period of time. I’m dreading watching him suffer. We have 2 children in their 40’s the youngest is hinting would it not be better to let the cancer takes it course without chemo, and  we could have 12 months with him, instead of 18 months to 2 years with chemo with al the  adverse side effects. It is ultimately his decision but i am so frightened of seeing him in pain. It would be unbearable. 

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  • Hi Adieu,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm very sorry to hear of the situation with your husband, this must be incredibly difficult to deal with and I am sure the uncertainty must be tough as well.

    I'm sure it's something others here will have experience with and so hopefully you'll get some more replies soon. We are always here whenever you may need it and I hope that the forum can be of some help to you, in terms of writing things down and reaching out to others.

    It sounds like you have some support around you - keep talking to others as this is often helpful. If you feel you'd like further support, have a look at Macmillan and also Maggie's, who offer various resources as well as a helpline and local support centres.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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  • Hi Adieu,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm very sorry to hear of the situation with your husband, this must be incredibly difficult to deal with and I am sure the uncertainty must be tough as well.

    I'm sure it's something others here will have experience with and so hopefully you'll get some more replies soon. We are always here whenever you may need it and I hope that the forum can be of some help to you, in terms of writing things down and reaching out to others.

    It sounds like you have some support around you - keep talking to others as this is often helpful. If you feel you'd like further support, have a look at Macmillan and also Maggie's, who offer various resources as well as a helpline and local support centres.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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