My Dad is 94 with stage four Bowel and Prostate cancer.

My Dad is 94 years old. Up until four months ago he was so independent. He looked after himself and lived on his own after my Mum died 6 years ago from Alzheimer’s. Dad had been losing blood for a while but never told us. We got him to do a FIT test and on 18 September he was diagnosed with Bowel Cancer and suspected Prostate cancer (which is now confirmed) and it had spread to his lymph nodes. He had a colonography to confirm the cancer and from that day he has gone down hill. He was so strong up to then, gardening, driving, shopping, doing jobs for neighbours. From the 18th Sept my sister and myself have been staying with him a week at a time as he can’t be on his own now. He still manages to get up get dressed and come downstairs and manages to go upstairs for a nap in the afternoon and gets himself ready for bed at night. He is so exhausted but he is very proud and won’t let us help with his personal care. He doesn’t want carers in to help (yet). We tend to all his other needs. We were given a prognosis of 6 months to two years but the way he is deteriorating we don think he will last 6 months. Although we are 3 and a half months down the line and he is not bed ridden yet. Has anyone had a similar experience that would share their thoughts with me. I would be very grateful. Thank you

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  • Hi silgrim,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm sorry to hear of the situation with your Dad and I hope you're getting on as OK as can be. I am sure this must be very tough.

    I wanted to send a reply to your post to give it a little boost, so a few more people should see it and hopefully you'll get some more replies. You can also search the forum (using the bar at the top of the page) to find other relevant discussions and people to connect with, if you'd like to.

    Do of course keep in touch with your Dad's doctor if you have questions or concerns, or if you feel you need some extra support.

    I hope that this forum can be of some help to you and we are always here if you need it.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Thank you Ben. Much appreciated. 

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