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Losing a friend - close friend has terminal cancer which is getting worse

Kazza76
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Hi

i am finding things very difficult at the moment as a close friend has terminal cancer, and this is unfortunately progressing. 
she lives a 4 hour drive away, which is heartbreaking as I can’t be with her as much as I would like. I have been to visit as often as I can, but feel so useless and hate not being able to go to her when needed to give her a hug 

  • Welcome to our forum, Kazza76
    I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through.
    It’s clear how much your friend means to you, and being far away when you want nothing more than to be by her side must be incredibly difficult.
    There are many others here who will understand how you’re feeling and I hope some of them will come along shortly to offer support and advice on how to be there for your friend.
    The other thing I wanted to mention is that you might find it helpful to take a look at this page from our website on coping with losing someone to cancer. It offers advice about processing what you’re feeling and finding ways to take care of yourself during this incredibly tough time.
    It’s okay to feel heartbroken and unsure of what to do. This is such a hard thing to go through, so please don’t hesitate to reach out here if you need to share more or just need someone to listen.
    All the best,
    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator
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    Hi there, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I'm going through similar with my mum at the moment - visiting as much as possible but we don't live in the same city. We send voicenotes on Whatsapp most days, and even if she's not feeling up to replying, I can see she's listened, and that's a small connection we have each day even if we haven't seen eachother. Sending love x

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    Hi

    thanks so much for responding to my message, it just helps to know other people are thinking of you. I’m so sorry you are going through the same with your mum. 
    I find it so hard not being with my friend to give her a hug and support her physically. 
    she is very private too so I don’t know how much her condition has worsened until I travel over to see her.  It’s such a hard position to be in isnt  it. 

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