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Unsure if I want to know husband's prognosis

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Hi - my husband has recently been diagnosed with prostate cancer - metastatic- had bone scan & ct scan & we’re waiting to see the oncologist to give us the prognosis & see how far the cancer has gone.

I desperately want to be there with my husband for the oncologist meeting but, although he wants to know, I’m not sure I can face knowing how long he may have in actual years. I feel such a coward - I’m just not sure what to do. Feeling very selfish & frightened.

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    Do what a number of others do, go into the meeting as you originally planned to do, and make it quite clear before any discussion takes place, you wish to leave the room for a few minutes when the timescale is being discussed. Just as it is your husband's right to know, it's your right not wanting to know.

    Both the doctor and your husband should respect your wishes.

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    Do what a number of others do, go into the meeting as you originally planned to do, and make it quite clear before any discussion takes place, you wish to leave the room for a few minutes when the timescale is being discussed. Just as it is your husband's right to know, it's your right not wanting to know.

    Both the doctor and your husband should respect your wishes.

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