Hello Daisyy_4, 

It's completely understandable that you feel you are struggling to support everyone at once - after all, you are only one person and cannot be everywhere at the same time and you are doing your very best which is already amazing and I am sure is very much appreciated by your loved ones. It's so sad what is happening to your dad and it must be really hard to watch him suffer and to feel that no one is really checking on him at home. There is however support available and I think it would not be a bad idea to ring someone, perhaps his doctor or specialist for advice on what to do and what support is available to him and what pain relief he is able to have access to. I think it's always good to follow your heart and gut feeling and therefore your instinct is right if you feel that someone needs to check him over and give him the right type of pain relief to make things more bearable for him. 

Have a look too at our page on support at home for you and your family as I think it will give you a few good pointers on the kind of help you could reach out for. For example it might be worth looking into the community nursing support/district nurses that is available where he lives and you could see whether they could go and visit him and check that he is ok. There are also community specialist palliative care nurses and Marie Curie nurses you could get in touch with. 

For support and information, you can also call the Cancer Research UK information nurses. They can give advice about who can help you and what kind of support is available and you can ring them on 0808 800 4040 - Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.

I hope this helps a little and that you will get some good suggestions too from members of our community who have been through something similar before. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator