Should be me - I had breast cancer 5 years and now have the all clear. My daughter was diagnosed 3 years ago. It has spread and she's now stage 4.

Hi my name is Hazel.. I am 71 years old. I had breast cancer 5 years ago and have had the last of my yearly mammograms and am all clear.. my daughter Sarah 51.. was diagnosed 3 years ago... it has spread .. it's now stage IV and in her lungs and bones.
She has an appointment tomorrow with her oncologist..
I am totally gutted ! It's hard to get my head around the fact that I'm fine and she isn't I'm devastated to say the least..
I'm angry, shocked, devastated and pray I could change places with her...
Sarah is being very brave and hopefully this will continue and give her the strength she needs to fight this bloody awful disease   any support is more than welcome

  • Hi Hazel, I'm so sorry to hear of your beautiful daughter Sarah's diagnosis, and understand how you are feeling, my eldest daughter Mandy also 51, had breast cancer 12 years ago which was treated well, but were told it would come back, and it has, a few months ago she was diagnosed with sarcoma of the breast, we are going through treatment to give her more time, the doctors say there is a small chance of cure which we hang on too, but it's difficult to be strong and hopeful when I'm not with her. Hazel, if I can help or support you in any way please ask. my best wishes to you both.

    Eddie xx

  • Thanks so much for replying Eddie it's heartbreaking isn't it.. I'm praying for a miracle but the chances are very small.. i hope your daughter goes through treatment well and who know hopefully there will be a cure someday big hugs to you and your family xxx

  • Thank you Hazel,  and your  most welcome,  I hope Sarah's appointment tomorrow brings you both a little hope, It's not right  for this to happen to your children, Mandy is so strong and positive and has no symptoms, and sometimes you wonder if she's really poorly. Hazel, I will be praying for Sarah, and  you  when I pray for Mandy, sending big hugs to you both, my best wishes to you both.

    Eddie xx 

  • Hiya Hazel great news on you getting the all clear,but so very sorry to read about your daughter by the sounds of Sarah she’s a brave woman like her mum and I wish her all the luck on her journeysounds like Sarah’s got the positive mind set which will help and having you by her side also,that’s one thing I wished for when I’ve just gone through my kidney cancer was to have my mum by my side but she’s got Alzheimer’s and it’s times like this I really needed her we’ve always done everything together and I’ve felt so alone going through all this but I wish you both all the very best xx

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    Hi, I know exactly how u feel  My 31 year old daughter has been diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer and it's absolutely heartbreaking  My girl gt diagnosed on February and it's now in her breastbone and spine.

  • Hi, My beautiful 31 year old daughter has been diagnosed with secondary breast cancer too. It's absolutely heartbreaking as a mother that there's nothing u can  My girl's cancer has spread to her breastbone and spine! Never give up hope though! ️

  • I'm so sorry to hear that... it is so awful we want to protect our children don't we... I'm hoping that the hormone treatment w give my daughter at least a few more years and we plan to fill them with as much as we can.. making memories for her and us.. I hope your daughter gets the help she needs and you all get support our cancer nurses have been amazing they are so kind xx

  • My girl is also going through the hormone treatment now. Phesgo injection every 3 weeks, bone strength injections and hormone tablets everyday as her cancer feeds from estrogen. The only thing that keeps me going is....we think POSITIVE! Sending massive hugs to u and ur daughter xx

  • That's the exact treatment Sarah is having as hers is estrogen receptor cancer too... we are being very positive too that's they only way I believe we've cried and laughed and cried again... stay strong I will be thinking of you both xx

  • Big hugs to u both xx. Ohh, I know abt the emotions lol. At times I get so angry, then cry and then laugh. It's defo a roller coaster journey. Xx