Hello Lilytone20

I'm sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis and that your Dad is struggling so much at the moment. It sounds like the Oncologist has been really positive about possible treatment options to try and manage things for your Mum and it's great to hear that she's feeling so well and remaining positive. Undoubtedly that mindset will stand her in good stead once her chemotherapy starts. 

It's often difficult for people when they learn that a loved one has an incurable diagnosis. My advice would be to try and take things a day, or a week, at a time and not look too far ahead into the future as this is what most often leaves people feeling even more anxious and worried. 

Hopefully, some of our members who have been through FOLFOX treatment or have had a loved one go through this treatment will post to share their experiences with you. In the meantime, you might find it helpful to talk things through with one of our nurses. Sometimes having someone to talk to who is slightly removed from your situation can be a real help and I know the team will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information and support they can. If you'd like to speak with them they're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

Hopefully, your Mum will cope well with her chemotherapy and the results in the coming weeks and months will show a good response. 

Keep in touch Lilytone20 and let us know how you're all doing. 

Sending you all my best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator