Hi Spbfaa,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear that you have been suffering these emotions for so long. I was in a similar position to you, when my Mum developed primary breast cancer. It eventually led to secondary. I had 4 brothers, but as her only daughter, I felt responsible for all her needs. Living in a different country, this wasn't easy and I was persuaded to visit Maggie's. I was initially very reluctant to do this, but I found the advice I got extremely useful and it helped me to put the situation into proportion. 

This is a lot for you to cope with at such a young age. You have had to grow up quickly. This is not the life that you would want for your mum, but we only get one chance at life. The most important thing for you to do now, is to enjoy what time you have with your mum and to make her quality of life as good as you can. Let her know how much you love her and try to keep your tears welled up, until you are away from her. You will find it helpful to talk to others, instead of bottling everything up.

It is certainly worth making an appointment with one of Maggies' counsellors to see how they can help you.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Spbfaa,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear that you have been suffering these emotions for so long. I was in a similar position to you, when my Mum developed primary breast cancer. It eventually led to secondary. I had 4 brothers, but as her only daughter, I felt responsible for all her needs. Living in a different country, this wasn't easy and I was persuaded to visit Maggie's. I was initially very reluctant to do this, but I found the advice I got extremely useful and it helped me to put the situation into proportion. 

This is a lot for you to cope with at such a young age. You have had to grow up quickly. This is not the life that you would want for your mum, but we only get one chance at life. The most important thing for you to do now, is to enjoy what time you have with your mum and to make her quality of life as good as you can. Let her know how much you love her and try to keep your tears welled up, until you are away from her. You will find it helpful to talk to others, instead of bottling everything up.

It is certainly worth making an appointment with one of Maggies' counsellors to see how they can help you.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx