Hello Spbfaa

I'm sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis. It's naturally been a difficult time for you all and it is understandable that at times you may feel overwhelmed by the emotions that you're feeling. 

Do you know if there are particular things that can leave you feeling overwhelmed by how you're feeling? For example, maybe you are scared of losing your Mum. It could be that you're frustrated by your Dad and sister not sharing information with you. Or perhaps you're angry that you/your Mum are in this situation. Maybe by exploring some of your thoughts and feelings surrounding your Mum's illness, you can gain a better understanding of your emotions and so learn to manage them in a way that you are more comfortable with. 

If you'd like to talk with someone about how you're feeling then you can contact your GP surgery or it may be that there is a charity such as Maggie's available in your local area. Perhaps talk with your Dad about how you're feeling, or maybe put down in writing to your parents about how you're struggling if speaking the words is too difficult. I'm sure that they would want to help make things easier for you if they can. 

We do have some information on our website about managing your emotions which is aimed at people living with cancer but there are still some tips and advice there that you may find helpful. 

Many people find talking to be a great help and here at Cancer Research UK, we have a team of nurses that you can call for advice and support if you feel that may help you. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any information and reassurance they can. 

It is OK to not be OK, Spbfaa. And you've been very brave in reaching out for support to help you learn to manage your emotions surrounding your Mum's illness in a more healthy way. 

Do make contact with some of the people that I've suggested and talk with your family as well. 

I hope that over the coming days and weeks, things improve for you all and that you're able to spend quality time with your Mum. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

Hello Spbfaa

I'm sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis. It's naturally been a difficult time for you all and it is understandable that at times you may feel overwhelmed by the emotions that you're feeling. 

Do you know if there are particular things that can leave you feeling overwhelmed by how you're feeling? For example, maybe you are scared of losing your Mum. It could be that you're frustrated by your Dad and sister not sharing information with you. Or perhaps you're angry that you/your Mum are in this situation. Maybe by exploring some of your thoughts and feelings surrounding your Mum's illness, you can gain a better understanding of your emotions and so learn to manage them in a way that you are more comfortable with. 

If you'd like to talk with someone about how you're feeling then you can contact your GP surgery or it may be that there is a charity such as Maggie's available in your local area. Perhaps talk with your Dad about how you're feeling, or maybe put down in writing to your parents about how you're struggling if speaking the words is too difficult. I'm sure that they would want to help make things easier for you if they can. 

We do have some information on our website about managing your emotions which is aimed at people living with cancer but there are still some tips and advice there that you may find helpful. 

Many people find talking to be a great help and here at Cancer Research UK, we have a team of nurses that you can call for advice and support if you feel that may help you. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any information and reassurance they can. 

It is OK to not be OK, Spbfaa. And you've been very brave in reaching out for support to help you learn to manage your emotions surrounding your Mum's illness in a more healthy way. 

Do make contact with some of the people that I've suggested and talk with your family as well. 

I hope that over the coming days and weeks, things improve for you all and that you're able to spend quality time with your Mum. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator